I don't like my ss girlfriend. They've been together 3 years and he still thinks she's the best thing since sliced bread (which is nice for him, don't get me wrong, but I wish he'd picked someone nicer).
I find her snobby and self-centred. She only talks about herself. He seems very impressed by what she does and I do think she is impressed by what she thinks he has, if you're with me. (His SF is well off, we have holiday home etc). We see little of her but when we do she doesn't smile, her mouth moves but her eyes don't. It's fake. She barely looks at my daughter (ss sister) but will recently sat talking about SS other sister and cousins to us. I made a point of asking who a name she mentioned was and she was very condescending to me. At the same meeting, DH ran it past me that he planned to meet friends later and used the words 'is that OK?' (Out of courtesy, not asking permission) and she felt the need to say 'why are you asking her? You don't need permission'
The gf was kept a secret from us as they got together during the 2nd lockdown whilst I was pregnant. He didn't want us to know as we had asked him to be careful and keep himself well. When baby came along we were finally introduced and he would bring her round late at night when we were trying to go to bed - knowing we would be up in the night.
My daughter doesn't like her but isn't old enough to articulate why.
My daughter only sees her brother infrequently due to the age gap (he's at uni) and he makes a song and dance if she doesn't come too. I want my daughter to get to know her brother but this girl is constantly there wanting his full attention.
I was hopeful it would fizzle out - first gf, different universities - but its been 3 years. I'm worried she's a permanent fixture. DH has no opinion on her whatsoever