Hi, im back after a break of a few years.
Im 39 and have a 4 year old son and have been married for 5 years. She has a 13 and 17 year old from a previous family.
The relationship with both of her girls was a challenge but i managed to make it work with the 13 year old after a lot of hard work and persistence
My struggles are with the 17 year old who is trouble and is unfortunately following in the footsteps of her alcoholic father. It all came to a head a few months ago and it was decided for the well being of the rest of out house she should spend some time living at another family members home as her actions were having a nagative effect on the rest of the home.
Shes now coming back for a month, we have only just go everyone settled and back on track and its going to get hectic again. I don't know waht to do or how to prevent her behaviour affecting the other kids and also me.
I feel like its bad of me to have had enough of my step daughter but its just too much, the others are great kids and the other step daughter understands her fathers lifestyle is frankly a joke but she is concerned about her older sister coming back because she spends any alone time they have together bragging about her drinking antics and telling her how bad our house is compared to her dads.
that is a huge concern for me as shes too young and it affects her behaviour immediately , then school becomes and issue and it takes weeks to get her back on track ahain.
maybe i just needed to vent