Telling stepson about new baby

[Melody150]

I’ve just found out I’m pregnant. This wasn’t planned. We have been together 2 years.
My OH has a 14 year old son. He had him very young and split up from his mum when he was 1.
OH spent most of his sons life living at his mums and his mum helped out a lot with childcare.
We recently moved in together and are renovating a house. We have given his son a lovely new room and he loves spending time here but we’re conscious this is still a big change for him.
Hes just going into the start of his GCSE years and whilst he’s a lovely kid, we’ve defo noticed some hormone changes and teenage agsnt recently.

We want children together but are still unsure on to do. One of the main reasons for this is being unsure how his son will react. It feels like a lot of changes in a short space of time for him.

He is 14, he is old enough to understand life goes on! He might feel a bit put out but he’ll get over it, it’s not like his mum and dad splitting is new news.

I certainly wouldn’t let it dampen my enjoyment of your pregnancy

What do you mean by not unsure what to do? I hope you wouldn’t consider terminating the pregnancy because your SS might not like it. That will be a risk whenever you get pregnant. He has time to get used to the idea.

This. It’s great that you care but don’t overthink it and ask DP to ensure he is there for him (lots of 1:1 time) but doesn’t overwhelm him with ‘are you OK about it?’

Most 14yos won’t be particularly interested until a baby arrives and then they will probably tune out again pretty quickly until the baby/toddler can engage with them.