Hello,
Step mum to hormonal nightmare waiting to happen. Involved for over 10 years with great relationship with other half's SD. SD is coming up to GCSE choosing year and is in bottom set, getting Ds and Es in and now with with added attitude.
Unfortunately, it's been a given and have seen it coming for years (own iphone since age of 9 and taken to bed with her with no limits as well as ipad) but never got involved or mentioned anything. OH hopelessly terrified of upsetting her and mother of SD will not co-operate, plays victim/lashes out and in absolute denial.
Entirely up to them how they deal with it but days just gone could see the future in front of our eyes, SD lied about homework, refused to go to bed and was the absolute dreaded hormonal nightmare I knew would happen. OH was quite shocked, no idea how but there you go!
We have no children so focus is fully on SD, which I don't mind at all, I love children, maybe not teenagers soon though😂
My aim is to be neutral, keep the peace, keep My peace and support my partner however it can be quite hard when he makes me do all the disciplining (which isn't really discipline) and I feel awkward but I do tell him it's not fair. He's just too scared to upset her and sits back when she plays up.
Any advice on how not to be the enemy and the person accused of ruining her life when she's with us because I'm the only one that says ' Please don't do that' would be great.
Thanks in advance.