Step family

[Rainforestflowers]

Hello

My husbands father died a while ago.He is part of a very abusive Step family.His stepmother lives alone now and the only pension she has is too sell the house ,which is worth a decent amount.
we have been contributing to her lifestyle agreed with him and his step brothers some time ago…out of pure utter grief for his father and guilt that the only money she has is this house.
it recently came to light that one of the older brothers sexually abused him when he was 8,he used to go there for school holidays.There Was a huge row a few weeks ago he told them how he felt ,never felt part of the family…..always laughed at ,the list is endless .He still wants too pay the money each month .. I totally disagree and am sickened by them!
Why does he still want to pay this money,we are arguing about them constantly !

Cut her off and block her.

Agree with you that your DH is being too kind. I get it. In some abusive step families there’s a kind of Stockholm syndrome because the kids are condition to keep the peace and seek love from the SP.

But the old bitch needs to sit and reflect on her life choices.

I agree with the pp regarding cutting contact however I have seen this type of scenario far too often in biological families and the ability of the victim to cut ties is incredibly difficult and you can't force him to not be involved.