Myself and my partner have been together for 6 1/2 years and have an almost 4yr child together. He has 2 children from a previous relationship now aged 13 & 19. The relationship with their mother broke down when the children were 1 & 4
i always had a very good relationship with both children but sadly not so much with their mother.
over the last year my 19 year old step daughter has constantly tried to cause bad feelings and atmosphere between me and my partner & all of my partners family.
She is very passive aggressive and thinks she is ‘clever’ and that it isn’t blatantly obvious she is sh*t stirring, slagging me off (behind my back) and just generally trying to cause trouble or do things to try to make me as uncomfortable and excluded as possible.
I have repeatedly raised the numerous issues with my partner who always says “he will deal with things in his own time and at the right time” well unsurprisingly when that time eventually comes around it’s been so long since whatever issue has happened that in my opinion it no longer has any weight.
my stepdaughter and her mother had a very volatile relationship up until about 18 months ago which often resulted in her mom throwing her out and me having to drop everything and drive over half an hour to pick her up and arrange for her to collect her belongings and her coming to live with us for extended periods of time. I never once made any issue off this nor did I have any issues as I love my stepdaughter and would do anything for her.
But now she is treating me like scum she thinks she’s clever causing trouble and bad feeling but keeping enough of a distance most of the time that she is making me look like a bitch and even when I call her out and we fall out because she won’t ever accept she is wrong or apologise she will continue to give me foul attitude until her grandma speaks to her or her dad (weakly 😡)
I’ve had enough but I do not know how to deal with it. I don’t feel like I am getting the strong support I deserve by her dad putting her in her place in no uncertain terms.
I feel I keep being made to look like a mug.
HELP PLEASE!!! any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated as I refuse to allow to the vile brat to come between me and my partner but I don’t know how much longer I can keep being ‘the bigger person’ and letting things go.