How to get access?

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Friend doesn't have access to his child

Unnamed on birth certificate

Lost contact with mother

Would like to change things... and support financially via maintenance and in time access...

How does he make this happen? Needs DNA test...

Just looking for how you get from A to B for him 🙏

I know this seems bitchy, but losing contact with the mother and not stepping up is a bit of a red flag. So he's starting from a low point. If he needs a friend to find out from Mumsnet how to get from A to B it's not really screaming a high priority or motivation on his point. You'd have to question if it's in this child's best interest to have him in their life.

Obviously there could be extenuating circumstances etc.

Asking mumsnet hoping someone has a clue bc it's a minefield trying to understand from online... he is aware of the post

Statutory Declaration of Acknowledgement of Parentage form.

I think they will then contact other parent, ask whether contested, organise a dna test which he will have to pay for etc. Tell him to ask at the local register office or CAB.

Thank you found that online, just seemed a little confusing like it assumes the mother will do it... so what do dads do? Register office or CAB is a good shout

He's a walking red flag. Please be careful and don't fall for it.

why is he unnamed on the birth cert? why or how did he lose contact with the mother? why was your friend not financially supporting the child from the start and why do they need a DNA test... something doesn't add up here.. i'd tread very carefully

Brief relationship, extenuating circumstances Ive chosen not to detail and don't know everything, ofc but know this much:

Friend who has a child and a responsibility to them (they wish to have acknowledged) and can't figure out without being on the birth certificate or having dna done (which needs mums permission to be done without being on birth cert) He's just trying to figure out how you get it sorted from becoming estranged... to contribute towards his child

Mum isn't claiming maintenance, ...he's trying to give it though!

Offered to ask MN, he's booked CAB appt now

I have no idea why she chose not to name him on the birth certificate, but that's their business

Given the details thus far, MN would have advised the mother not to put him on the certificate, as that would have given her more freedom to live her life, move around the country etc.

MN would advise this even if the father seemed decent enough. So I don’t necessarily think it is a red flag he is not on there.

Approx how old is the child, OP?

I'd try a different forum? Perhaps divorce/separation? This one is mostly for step parents

How old is the child ?