The DC are with us this week. Over the past few weeks we’ve found out that ex is 3 months pregnant with BF of 7 months.
This morning we were told by DC that their DM beats her BF.
DP is obviously worried about his DC being in this sort of environment.
DP’s ex also being very crazy, one week she says he doesn’t see DC enough, yesterday she said he must return them by 17:00 Sunday and not take them to school
on a Monday.
I don’t know how to support him through this. Anyone else dealt with this rubbish?
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FWBnomore · 25/03/2024 11:14
KirstenBlest · 25/03/2024 11:54
Your DP's children's mother will be in their lives forever probably.
The 'crazy ex' is a red flag. My XP had a whole string of them.
Illpickthatup · 25/03/2024 11:56
He can apply for an emergency court order of he thinks the situation at their mum's is putting them in danger. Does he currently have a court order? What steps has he taken already to get full custody?
FWBnomore · 25/03/2024 12:07
No court order at the moment. He is currently looking into it now as this has only come up today with the violence. He had started to get the visits sorted out as she kept changing things last minute.
Everything has become very strange, it was calm for a while. Last week she threatened to report him for child endangerment because the eldest had a sore throat at the end of the weekend with him.
Illpickthatup · 25/03/2024 11:56
He can apply for an emergency court order of he thinks the situation at their mum's is putting them in danger. Does he currently have a court order? What steps has he taken already to get full custody?
mirl · 25/03/2024 12:10
Well it's not 'only come up today with the violence' if he's said she also used to beat him up as well has it? Stop with the 'crazy ex' trope. It doesn't matter if you think it or her behaviour is erratic etc. Stop saying it. It won't help your case in here and it won't help in real life. And I hope to his neither of you speak about their mother like that infront of the children. Regardless of her behaviour.
Illpickthatup · 25/03/2024 12:12
He definitely needs to get a court order sorted then asap. It only costs £232 to apply for one and it would only cost extra if he uses a solicitor. I'd also start keeping a diary of anything the kids report and any times she's messed around with the schedule of you don't already do that.
What is the current schedule?
FWBnomore · 25/03/2024 12:07
No court order at the moment. He is currently looking into it now as this has only come up today with the violence. He had started to get the visits sorted out as she kept changing things last minute.
Everything has become very strange, it was calm for a while. Last week she threatened to report him for child endangerment because the eldest had a sore throat at the end of the weekend with him.
Illpickthatup · 25/03/2024 11:56
He can apply for an emergency court order of he thinks the situation at their mum's is putting them in danger. Does he currently have a court order? What steps has he taken already to get full custody?
FWBnomore · 25/03/2024 12:17
Current schedule is supposed to be every other weekend with half of the school holidays. Last year it was fine and she stuck with it.
Illpickthatup · 25/03/2024 12:12
He definitely needs to get a court order sorted then asap. It only costs £232 to apply for one and it would only cost extra if he uses a solicitor. I'd also start keeping a diary of anything the kids report and any times she's messed around with the schedule of you don't already do that.
What is the current schedule?
FWBnomore · 25/03/2024 12:07
No court order at the moment. He is currently looking into it now as this has only come up today with the violence. He had started to get the visits sorted out as she kept changing things last minute.
Everything has become very strange, it was calm for a while. Last week she threatened to report him for child endangerment because the eldest had a sore throat at the end of the weekend with him.
Illpickthatup · 25/03/2024 11:56
He can apply for an emergency court order of he thinks the situation at their mum's is putting them in danger. Does he currently have a court order? What steps has he taken already to get full custody?
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Illpickthatup · 25/03/2024 12:48
Is there a reason why he has so little contact given that he claims she is a violent person? Surely he would have applied for at least 50:50 by now.
You say his dream is full custody yet all he's done so far is "look into it". What's there to look into? Something's not sounding right to me.
FWBnomore · 25/03/2024 12:17
Current schedule is supposed to be every other weekend with half of the school holidays. Last year it was fine and she stuck with it.
Illpickthatup · 25/03/2024 12:12
He definitely needs to get a court order sorted then asap. It only costs £232 to apply for one and it would only cost extra if he uses a solicitor. I'd also start keeping a diary of anything the kids report and any times she's messed around with the schedule of you don't already do that.
What is the current schedule?
FWBnomore · 25/03/2024 12:07
No court order at the moment. He is currently looking into it now as this has only come up today with the violence. He had started to get the visits sorted out as she kept changing things last minute.
Everything has become very strange, it was calm for a while. Last week she threatened to report him for child endangerment because the eldest had a sore throat at the end of the weekend with him.
Illpickthatup · 25/03/2024 11:56
He can apply for an emergency court order of he thinks the situation at their mum's is putting them in danger. Does he currently have a court order? What steps has he taken already to get full custody?
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