I’m at my end

[Medi130]

I have two sk 20b and 18g. I have three biological kids with my ex. Current wife no children together. My ss has gotten arrested and has got into other problems. He doesn’t listen to house rules. I’m at my end with him. I resent him. I do not feel comfortable with him living here. My wife doesn’t agree. I’ve been firm with him no longer being allowed to live here. He’s not welcome at his father’s house either. For the same reasons. But he does have an aunt that says he can go to. My wife is mad and resents me over this. I have disconnected with the sd also. I’m just so frustrated and mad. My daughter won’t come around either because of my current wife. My marriage is close to ending.

[Meadowfinch]

Your wife wants to see her children, naturally. You want to see your daughter (naturally). Perhaps you should live separately until they all sort themselves out and grow up a little.

It would give you both a chance to decide whether the marriage is worth working on.

[Medi130]

I don’t think seperation is an option at this point. This has been going on for a couple years at this point.

[EG94]

he is old enough to stand on his own two feet but you need your wife to support you. It’s pretty clear his behaviour is inexcusable last warning then out and that needs to come from wife. why does your daughter not come because of wife?

[mirror245]

I'm sorry but he's a young adult who has made mistakes and needs support. I don't know the extent of his difficulties but I don't think I could throw my child out of the house.

Who owns the house you live in and how old is your dd?

It doesn't seem that there's a way forward here and I'm not surprised your marriage is on the rocks.

[AnneLovesGilbert]

Sounds very much like it’s over. Make your plan to leave. Life will be so much better. And you can prioritise your own kids.

[YetMoreNewBeginnings]

Her son isn’t happy. You’ve disconnected with your SD (who doesn’t appear to have done anything). Your daughters aren’t happy. Your wife isn’t happy. You aren’t happy.

Why is separation not an option? Oh sounds like the only option to me.

[Whattodo2024]

You aren’t compatible. She’s entitled to want her son living with her regardless of age. You are entitled to have your daughter living with you in a safe environment.

time to move on