DH has a daughter from previous marriage. She is quite a bit older than our children.
DSD really doesn't enjoy school but has become more against it this year. She claims to be sick, has a migraine or period pains in order to get sent home.
I work very close to her school because of this DH will often call me to pick her up. When it was only occasionally I didn't mind but now it seems that DH and his ex just assume I will pick up as I'm selfish if I don't (it would take either of them an hour to pick up).
So I pick up but neither mum or dad come home early and obviously work are getting annoyed about me leaving work early.
On top of that I don't let DSD play on her technology when she is sick (I also have this rule for my children) but according to DH that is me being mean.
We had a row last week and I said I was no longer going to pick up DSD. If he doesn't like how I look after her he can do it. Or mum. Or her grandparents.
It's okay for me to say no isn't it? It's not really DSD that's the problem but the fact her parents think it's fine for me to risk my job by caring for their sick child.
I blame DH because for all I know he might have told his ex I'm fine with the arrangement but I'm really not.
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Crystallizedring · 17/03/2024 17:53
Crystallizedring · 17/03/2024 19:32
Thanks for the reassurance. I was sure I wasn't being mean or selfish but DH often makes me feel that way when it comes to DSD.
The school don't call me DH does and if I don't or can't answer he'll phone the office.
I would even consider doing pick up if it was only during DHs contact time but it's all the time.
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Crystallizedring · 17/03/2024 19:32
Thanks for the reassurance. I was sure I wasn't being mean or selfish but DH often makes me feel that way when it comes to DSD.
The school don't call me DH does and if I don't or can't answer he'll phone the office.
I would even consider doing pick up if it was only during DHs contact time but it's all the time.
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