We have had on going issues with SD mum regarding hygiene, weight and general health.
She doesn't seem to do much at all and isn't bothered with our concerns.
One of which is poo in knickers. She isn't wiping thoroughly- obviously.
There's a bit of sad background where we found out mum hardly used to buy loo roll when she was younger and she used to drip dry. We found this out while she was with us and we started to notice she wasn't wiping so asked her and she said mum never has loo roll so tells me to shake.
They aren't financially in a bad place. Mum works full time and dad gives above maintenance etc. So that really isn't a reason.
Moving forwards she's always coming to us with dirty or stained knickers. I have spoken to mum and so has my partner obviously.
Her response is usually 'ah the dirty little bugger, always having skids in her pants- can you remind her to wipe for me' it's just horrid really.
So we have in the past, sat down and discussed the importance of wiping properly.
But unsure what option we have left? We can remind her and remind her but if mum isn't helping there it's just like hitting a wall.
Her underwear and leggings always smell awful; it's sad.
Alongside this, there's a whole list of other hygiene issues, lack of school attendance and her being obese.
My partner cannot take her to our GP as she lives 250 miles away and the mum has said she doesn't want to take her as she doesn't want to give her a complex. This is regarding everything. Dad has offered to take her with them both to sort but she said no.
What are the options here? We have spoken to LA and school. Both seem unbothered.