The age difference between the first and the second is significant.

[pregnantmum]

With my husband, I have always thought that one child was enough. However, after getting remarried last October, I have developed a strong desire to have a second child. My first child is already 18 years old, and I am very confused because I fear disrupting his life

He's 18. That's an adult. How will it disrupt his life? Go for it if you want to.

He lives at home, is used to being an only child, and has never wanted a little brother with his father.

It's not really his choice if he wants a sibling or not, and he's an adult.

Tough shit. It's not up to him and if he doesn't like it he can always get his own place. He's an adult.

Do you think I should prepare him beforehand, or announce it after the fact?

If that is your only reason for not having another child, you will regret it if you don't try. Your son will get used to it.

Just tell him after. He probably doesn't want to know that you and your husband are having sex all the time to try for a baby. Plus I don't think you need the pressure of anyone knowing you're trying.

@Illpickthatup

Just to prepare him a bit for the idea. This way, he'll be truly shocked when he finds out. When he was a child, he used to say he would leave home. Now, he's probably convinced that Mom is asexual. loll

You’ve already asked him about the idea though? In your other thread?

I had 2 children with my previous partner and was done, I didnt want anymore.

I then met someone new and fell pregnant unexpectedly. I was worried my children would be unhappy (especially the eldest who's 14) my boys love their little brother unconditionally although the eldest isn't too interested. Was the best thing I've ever done and he's bought light in to our lives

@Cheeesus

Yes, joking with a friend of mine who recently gave birth

Thank you, I really hope so.

Sounds like a sibling might be good for him.

I cannot even imagine wanting to start again with a gap like that. But it’s got nothing to do with him. You do what works for you.

You don’t mention your husband, does he want a child too? Does he already have any?