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Mulcahy75 · 09/01/2024 18:18

Hi my hb stopped paying for his daughter at 18 after she completed a levels at college, now he's been told she's doing more a levels at uni does he have to start up payments again?

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Littlefish · 09/01/2024 18:21

I've never heard of anyone doing A levels at University. What course is she doing?

Is he contributing to the parental contribution part of her student finance?

Shinyandnew1 · 09/01/2024 18:23

I didn’t know you could do A levels at university!

Regardless of that, my children are at university and they certainly don’t get any cheaper so I would think him continuing to support her would be a good thing.

sprigatito · 09/01/2024 18:23

Why isn't he supporting her financially if she's still in education?

Mulcahy75 · 09/01/2024 18:24

Hi we're not sure what courses she's taking as he no longer sees her this is just what his ex said. She says they can take him to court. No he no longer contributes since she finished college.

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Mulcahy75 · 09/01/2024 18:25

He was she finished a levels and became an adult at 18

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LIZS · 09/01/2024 18:26

I doubt she is doing additional A levels at uni. Possibly a Foundation year? Why is your dh not supporting her voluntarily?

Mulcahy75 · 09/01/2024 18:28

We can not afford it

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LIZS · 09/01/2024 18:28

But you could until last summer?

sprigatito · 09/01/2024 18:30

It's usual for parents to continue to support their children through university, and if he was managing to make maintenance payments before she turned 18, then he can afford it. I wouldn't have much respect for a father who had this sort of "bare minimum" attitude to his child tbh.

Mulcahy75 · 09/01/2024 18:30

Yes and we thought it was finished cost of living going up

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Menomeno · 09/01/2024 18:32

If she’s in full-time education doing a level 3 course (ie A levels or equivalent) payments continue until they turn 20. However, any decent parent would continue to offer support throughout the uni years.

Shinyandnew1 · 09/01/2024 18:32

Mulcahy75 · 09/01/2024 18:30

Yes and we thought it was finished cost of living going up

It’s also gone up when it comes to his daughter’s living costs! I think it’s crappy for him to stop paying. Students have next to nothing.

sprigatito · 09/01/2024 18:32

It isn't "finished" though, is it, she's still his daughter and she's still in education. Who is picking up the slack now that he's decided to abandon his responsibilities?

I wouldn't want to see him either if I were her.

Pigeonqueen · 09/01/2024 18:32

sprigatito · 09/01/2024 18:30

It's usual for parents to continue to support their children through university, and if he was managing to make maintenance payments before she turned 18, then he can afford it. I wouldn't have much respect for a father who had this sort of "bare minimum" attitude to his child tbh.

This.

Parents income is assessed as part of the student loans / grants scheme and parents are expected to top up any gaps.

My ex suddenly decided he didn’t fancy making maintenance payments anymore when dd started university (despite being a millionaire but that’s a different story) and I argued with him that I was still having to support her and top up her income so I expected him to continue to do the same.

Mulcahy75 · 09/01/2024 18:33

I understand it is 'usual' for parents to support their children through uni HOWEVER if you can't afford to go to uni then you can't afford to go to uni 🤷🏻‍♀️

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HeckyPeck · 09/01/2024 18:33

I've never heard of anyone doing a levels at university. She might be doing an access course?

If maintenance is payable, court won't get involved. They'd just say to go via CMS. I'd tell her to go via CMS as they'll ask for proof of the course and saved getting involved in any back and forth.

wohlarra · 09/01/2024 18:34

If she was going to uni then she is considered dependent on her parents to support her financially, Ds is costing us £5k per year because his maintenance loan doesn't even cover his accommodation costs. His loan is so low because it is based on the household income so measured off what a parent/step parent earn in the house where they reside.

Ds is also home for around 23 weeks of the year when he is not at uni, you think he doesn't cost anything? Your husband should be paying to support his child.

Mulcahy75 · 09/01/2024 18:34

You have no idea of the situation so your comments aren't helping - thanks

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planetarynoodle · 09/01/2024 18:34

Nah she's an adult. He should give the money to her now

HeckyPeck · 09/01/2024 18:35

Menomeno · 09/01/2024 18:32

If she’s in full-time education doing a level 3 course (ie A levels or equivalent) payments continue until they turn 20. However, any decent parent would continue to offer support throughout the uni years.

My Mum is and always has been a great parent. She didn't pay towards my uni costs because she couldn't afford to. It didn't make her any less of a mum!

anothernamechangeagainsndagain · 09/01/2024 18:37

Parenting doesn't end at 18 but he should be giving maintenance directly to his daughter and encouraging her to spend time with you

Octavia64 · 09/01/2024 18:38

A lot depends on the financial order made when they divorced.

Sometimes it covers uni costs and states who should pay.

If so then your partner needs to pay whatever he agreed.

However, it seems to be the case that while he does not need to pay his ex-partner his child may be able to take court action to get him to pay them.

www.russell-cooke.co.uk/news-and-insights/news/children-in-university-how-it-affects-child-maintenance

sprigatito · 09/01/2024 18:39

Mulcahy75 · 09/01/2024 18:34

You have no idea of the situation so your comments aren't helping - thanks

You asked 🤷🏻‍♀️ and we've got the information you gave us, which is enough to deduce that your DH is a deadbeat dad who thinks parenting stops at 18.

wohlarra · 09/01/2024 18:39

Yes, any monies now should be paid directly to his DD, even a teeny amount helps pay for food.