What to do?

[Pennyforyour]

Hey,

looking for some advice, maybe from lived experience.

DP has a son (8) who lives approx 2 hours away and stays here EOWE. DP drives the full journey to pick him up on a Friday and then drop off on Sunday. ExW lives with her husband and their child.

ExWs husband has a new job which requires them to move an additional 2 hours from where they are now meaning a 4 hour drive from where we are.

ExW has stated that when they move she wants to review the current arrangement as she feels that an 8 hour round journey twice EOWE will be too much for him and wants to reduce his contact to once a month. DP wants to continue things as they are but we both appreciate that it’s a lot of travelling.

Has anyone else been in this situation? What options does DP have? What’s going to be the best thing for DPs son in this situation?

All thoughts welcome

He can take out a prohibited steps order at court to prevent them moving and access decreasing. It’s really that or accept that contact will dwindle to school holidays only.

He needs to go to court to prevent the move. Was it her who moved 2 hours away in initially? He could also have stopped that.

He can go to court and stop his son from moving.

ExWs husband is in the military so they will be moving to his next base and moving into new military housing. It seems like it’s a non negotiable. ExW and DP moved from where they were initially when they split up, she moved with her husband to where they are and DP moved to where we are.

He needs to take it to court, new husband's job doesn't get to be the sole factor for n where his step child lives or what contact he can have. Maybe they will have to live separately.

Why isn't ExW doing any of the travelling?

You're wrong. She can move however much she wants.
The child can not.

So is your husband going to actually do something. Like go to court for a PSO?

He can stop this. But it's all on him.

It certainly is negotiable though. She’s moving him away from his dad, his school, his friends etc. For her new husband. It doesn’t work like that. Your oh needs to apply for a prohibitive steps order, ASAP before the move. She’ll possibly have the options of staying with her son, or the son maybe staying with you if that’s what he wants. She doesn’t just get to move him another 2 hours away

Could his son move in with you two instead?

Or once a month he goes to where the son lives and stays in an air b n b for 2 nights.

Why can't he and his ex each drive two hours and meet in the middle to swap DC?

Because it's still four hours drive for the child.

Your husband could stop it.

Or he could figure out what's best for his son.

Can he half terms etc?