God I dread boxing day with DSC

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They come boxing day every year and It always goes to shit. They're never grateful for the presents they get and spend the day bragging about what whoever else got them which then makes my DC feel shit about what they got (hint - no £400 consoles)

I found a lump in my breast and it's all I can think about. I don't want to do another bloody Christmas day. I don't want to have to get dressed and force myself to be "on" again today.

I just want to shut myself in the bedroom 🙁

I hope your dislike for them isn’t as obvious to them as it is on this post.

I’m sorry you’ve found a lump. I know that is terrifying, presumably though you have to keep going for your own dc so shutting your self away isn’t a realistic option. I hope you can get an appointment tomorrow for an examination and the Dr is able to reassure you it is nothing sinister, rather than needing to refer you.

How old are they? What does your husband/partner say to them?
I wouldn't tolerate rudeness in your own home.
Have you seen the GP about the lump?

Sorry you’re having a hard time. If it’s reassuring, 100 cases are referred by a GP to find one case of breast cancer, so the odds are in your favour.

I just want to shut myself in the bedroom 🙁

Do it. What’s stopping you?

Be there to say hi and then for half an hour or so and for the opening of presents.

Then take a glass of wine and some chocolates up to bed, watch tv, read a book, tell your DH to shout you when the food is ready.

Thank you for the replies.

I saw my GP last Monday and she checked me over. She said it might be abcess/infection and perscribed a week of AB's, saying that if the lump hasn't gone away in a few weeks she'll refer me on the 2ww to the breast clinic.

I've finished the AB's and whilst it's not as red and painful - the lump hasn't changed in size or shape at all, so back to the GP's I go it seems.

It might be nothing but there's a family history so I'm worried.

DSC don't know that I feel this way about them coming today of course not. I'm very good at putting on a brave face, did it for my DC yesterday and will be doing the same for them today. It's just taxing sometimes isn't It?

Idk if I'm alone in this but I don't feel like I can fully relax when they're here especially on special occasions. I feel like I have to be "on" and making an effort with every thing.

I definitely don't feel comfortable lounging around in my nighty with no bra on which is what I've been doing all day today so far

I could do the polite hellos, have a chat then dissappear upstairs with a book or something after half an hour.

Just have a nice chill day in bed then! You've said hi. You've done gifts or whatever. No stress. Just let them get on with their thing and you can do what you like.

I feel like this too. I hate them coming on Boxing Day. They were meant to stay and didn’t want to. I was so relieved.