Hello, please don't take any of this in a wrong way it's a long one but I could use advice.
Dss came to me and his father when he was 5 now 12. I've understood his background more as I went through the same thing as a child so I could bond with him a lot as a child from this but since growing up he has got more ignorent/moody towards me. He doesn't listen at all when I ask something but will when his dad does. I go to the ends of the earth to make sure he feels just like my other kids I don't ever make him feel left out he gets the same " love you have a nice sleep" and protection as any. I'm very protective over him when he goes out as he's getting older and the streets are scary these days. In general he's a very quiet kid and he's a good kid too especially at school. I ask him why he doesn't listen to me he just shrugs his shoulders. His dad asked would he listen if his dad told him not to do the things I ask him not to do and he said " yeah I'd listen ". I just feel drained I don't know how else to treat him as I give the same punishments to my other two kids if they don't listen which is to take a item they want for a day if I have to ask twice for them to listen. I try really hard and have proved to him that he is my priority also he is my son just like my other kids he's no different even if I didn't birth him. He just doesn't seem to listen or want too