Haven't seen DSD10 since summer holidays. As not to drip feed summer holiday where stressful for us all, had moved into my parents house, me and DH where stressed because of the move and it just was not a happy environment for anyone.
When DSD went back to mums she said she didn't want to see us any more, I got this as having to stay with your step mums parent that you have met a handful of times is not ideal.
Fast forward a couple of weeks and she wants to see fad but not me and her brother, this crushed me. I've known DSD since she was 2 and have always treated he like my own, I used to have her all through the holidays whilst mum and dad worked, take her out on day trips and if I did something woth friends who had children of similar age she always came with me. Even when DS was born all fun events where arraigned for when we had DSD with us, including events I did woth my friends, which she loves as they have children she can play with. DS idolise his sister, but she is very jealous of him, she said it was better when it was just her (she's an only child on mums side and was an only child on our side before DS, no siblings or cousins)
Just for context DSD has just been diagnosed with mild learning difficulties, with further assessment into ASD and sees the world very black and white. Its almost like she doesn't know her feelings and emotions and either shuts down if you ask her to say how she's feeling, or will say what she thinks you want to hear.
Will its half term and mums going on holiday so DSD has had to come to us. I'm doing the school pick up and honestly I'm still feeling very hurt. me and DS have lots if fun activities booked this week with friends that i know DSD will injoy, but i don't want to take her, she can stay at home with dad as she only wants to see her dad and not me and her DB. But then I try to remember she's still a child and I am the adult and should overcome this, it's just so hard to do.