Background- have a late teens SD; been with my DH since she was 3. Was not OW, DH was divorced from BM. BM has a very long history of batshit behaviour (not just towards me, also DH and his family). BM made it very clear that I was not to 'overstep' my role- never have, never wanted to. Despite all the terrible behaviour from her towards me and DH, and drip feeding poison into SD ear - I have a good relationship (like Aunt / Niece) with SD. Have always tried to ensure she feels welcome, that our home is also her home, my family have been very inclusive of her, all good stuff. But I haven't ever tried to take on a mum role as a) she has a mum, b) she seems very happy with the dynamic we have, c) her BM would lose the plot.
Just when I thought I had moved on from all the 'noise' that goes along with stepparenting.. I am told that BM 'wishes me and SD had a closer relationship' and in her view I don't make enough effort. This is very clearly a dig at me. Why? I have no idea, haven't spoken to the woman in years.
Says the woman who used money to pay for botox rather than buy food for her child (that was a particularly awful discovery a few years ago). Bearing in mind my DH chose to pay the entire mortgage on the property they jointly owned up to SD turning 18 as BM used to threaten that she would move to the other end of the UK and take SD with her.. she worked full time and wasn't short of cash.
Not too much of a point to this- I have a great DH who does his best to ensure I don't have to deal with her nuttiness (and he has very little contact with her now). Just a vent. When does this shit end.