Late night because I can't sleep.
I have friends with kids and they're all going through or have been through hell with their preteens and teens. I know it's normal.
But how do you deal with the difference between it being your bio child and step.
My 12 DSD has been awful for about 18 months now. Our family, friends, her dad, and her mum (we get on well) all see it and it's awful.
But I get it the worst. And with her mum and dad, she respects them and what they say. She gets grumpy if they say no or something but she gets over it etc.
I just get ignored, it's like I'm not here or I get shouted at etc and then she'll stay in a mood with me until she wants something from me.
So that's where I get in trouble because yes I'm stubborn and I try and be the adult, kill her with kindness etc but it gets to me so badly. I quite often cry or wish I could just move out when she's here. And that makes me feel guilty because when she does decide to get angry with me she probably also wants to move out. We all did it as kids! But with your parent that's normal right but with a step you get this guilt. But most of the time she just acts like I don't exist so I don't think she feels like that often which is good. But I'm so tired of being on eggshells all the time. I never know what I'm going to get. Which again is normal for parents with preteens/teens but parents can do something about it. And they know deep down the kid doesn't really hate you.
But she's just horrid and uses her dad and myself.
By the way, also have a 15DSS and he is wonderful. He also went through a messy preteen phase but he always respected me and what I said. He always addressed both me and his dad. We'd obviously fall out but we always made up.
So anyway what do I do?