so how do you explain

[bambam30]

to ds 2.6 that dss has to go see his own mom. my lo adores his brother my ss but gets very upset when he leaves today dss has gone back a night early to spend some time with his mom[obviosly] but lo got very upset when dss said he gotta go to his mom lo just kept saying no mama there- i know in his little mind there is no difference but will he just learn to accept this and is there anything we can do to help because every time dss has to leave lo gets very upset which makes saying goodbye to dss a bit sad too

do you have a photo of dss and his mom that you can show your ds. or has he met dss's mother, so he can at least see, oh yes, he's going off to see a real person (perhaps refer to her name rather than dss' mom), and then the connection may come a bit later on, that, that is dss' mummy.

yep he has actually met dss mom but still he says no mama and points at me i know probably he will just get used to it but i just wanted to help him along iyswim i have in the past used distraction when dss leaving but that feels really bad towards ss

I can't think of anything else, as he probably is too young to understand same daddy, different mummy scenario. I suppose it will make sense to him with time. I'm going to have the same problem in a year or so too.