Moving in together if you have almost adult children

[Thisisme23]

Hi - I'm not even sure what board to post this in - so hope there are some helpful voices on here

My partner and I both have older teenage and adult children and we've begun thinking about moving in together. No definite plans yet but just in the considering stage.

My question is - how to go about moving in together successfully - while still considering the adult/near adult children. On both sides the children only live with us alternate weekends (generally)
I mean - even deciding where to move too - I can see being a bit of a nightmare. Only one of the children drives ATM. So how do we even decide where to live - as wherever we end up - some of the children will end up being farther from their social activities/work etc etc.
Also - assuming we stick to same pattern the children will all be with us at the same time - so if we try to give each one a bedroom of their own it means a 5 bed house - which is beyond our budget by a mile.
There are a thousand other considerations - with 6 peoples interests to be factored in and I'm struggling to see how we can do it. It is likely to be years before any of the children are living independently .

On the one hand I really do love DP - and I want to live with him full-time - but with all the children it just seems like we'll never work out what to do - so alternative is to wait who knows maybe 5-7+ years before the kids all have their own homes?? Do I need to wait that long??

Has anyone successfully moved in with a partner while having older teens or adult children?

I met my partner when my son was 13, we've just moved in together including my son who is now 20. My partner lives a 30min drive from where I lived and we had a nice social life in both areas for the time we dated. We decided to live in my partners house rather than mine for practical reasons - we have a garage, drive and garden at his, so I sold mine.

I waited until my son had finished education, could drive and had his own car. My son's school was out of the area where I previously lived (half way between his dads and mine) so his friends have always been a bit scattered anyway. He's got friends in our new area that he's made through his job - colleagues just happened to be local to us, and he's dating a girl who would have probably lived too far away from our previous home for that to work.

There are a few inconveniences where we live now (public transport just not quite as good as before) and I think he may have preferred to staty where we lived previously although he comments that where we live now is greener and cleaner.

He lives rent free with us to help him save for professional qualifications and I ultimately took this approach - his whole life, everything decision I made was in his best interests. This was the first decision that was in my best interests (emotionally and financially) but was still a good decision for him. I would never have moved if it wasn't a good decision for him too.

In your circumstances OP I'd wait until the 16yo finish college.

OP, stay as you are, you are your own mistress.

Stay together during your child free time.

No easier way to sour a relationship with 4 teens in each others way.

As they are not going to Uni they could remain at home for years.

Moving out usually needs a good salary to fund it.

Stay as you are.

Don't do it. Living alone is bliss compared to sharing. Repeat after me: separate beds - separate rooms - SEPARATE HOUSES.