Hes not a good dad....

[Justwannadotherightthing]

So i have two kods of my own split equally between my ex and me. My partner has three kods... Two SEN tgat he has one overnight one week and two the next.

He admitted he hadnt been around the house mich amd so i stepped in amd helped him quite a bit with his kids...worst mistake ever. Hes useless. They are not his priority in the slighteat. They stay with us hes happy for them to be up in their room ( which is a mess) he jasmt decorated it or anything. The youngest at 6 to stay upnto midnight and for the kids to go unfed.... He stays in ned to most lunchtimes whem they are with us.
Yet another saturday...hes only up. His prioety is washing the car. Not whether they have been fed or washed. Im sofed up.

Have you talked to him about it?

Leave him.

Raise your standards and get rid of him. Why on earth are you still with this loser?

So you live separately? In that case I would dump him immediately and tell his ex what he's like when the children are with him.

You need to tell the children's mother how neglectful he is and then leave him.
Selfish, lazy man.

So what are you going to do about it?

You see it time and time again, the SM just becomes an unpaid skivvy, his ex was probably equally fed up and now you've lumbered yourself with this useless lump,
I feel very sorry for his children as no doubt if you end the relationship, he will just move straight into another one with little regard to:his kids.

@Justwannadotherightthing
What exactly are you getting out of this relationship? It is very apparent what you are putting into the relationship.

Why would you expect a man who is so indifferent to the well being of his children, to bring much care to any relationship?

He’s looking for a free nanny/housekeeper with benefits. Why are you even considering that position?

RUN.

Dump him. Like a pp said- he’s just looking for another nanny/cleaner/cook. Move on and enjoy life with two kids.

Get rid of him. He managed to have three children and yet can’t be bothered to be a decent parent, but is happy for you to step in.

There would be zero attraction for me in a man who was so uncaring, selfish and lazy. Someone who can’t be bothered to feed a six-year-old? There are no excuses.

Leave ?

What were you thinking that you inflicted this man on your own children??

His children aren't his priority???
What a waste of space. I feel sorry for his children. You can leave him but they're stuck with him poor loves.

Yes I agree with this

This too! Not caring if they are fed ect is major issue their mum should be aware..she would be devastated id imagine 😭 I would be too if my child's father did this! I'd be very grateful to be told and that you had stepped up for them.

Why exactly are you with him??

I just don't understand how women can force themselves to have sex with men like this. Totally useless, careless and selfish to the point that he let's a six year old child go hungry and you're what? Calling him your partner, cleaning his house, feeding him and his children? Wtf are you thinking? Just dump him already and raise your standards. And yes, tell the mother of those children that he is neglecting them badly.

He sounds quite the catch.

I wouldn’t be able to muster any attraction to a man who was like this.
Deeply unattractive

You must be absolutely desperate for any man to be with him.

I feel so sorry for your children bringing this utter waster into their lives.

Poor children.

Find some self respect for yourself and get him out of your poor childrens lives.

You are being completely used by a loser who knows you are a mug.

Wake up.

Yep, why isn't this pattern common knowledge???

It's the second-wife script. Women are interchangeable commodities that provide free childcare and domestic labour, and children are commodities whose feelings don't matter.

All he has to do is get rid of the baby-mama and replace with a woman who will do the work and have even less say than the first wife did because she's not the mother.

Men target desperate women with little self respect to be their skivvy aupair.

It is that simple.

After 5 mintes in the company of one of these losers, anyone with an ounce of cop on or self respect would say fxxk this for a game of soldiers and be gone.

OP has dragged her poor children into this wasters life.

Poor children, what a childhood, their mother skivvying for a ramdom wasters children.

What memories they will have.🙄

Agree with other posters who've said this is a common pattern of behaviour in men like this.
They're always on the lookout for another woman to take on domestic and nanny duties.

Get yourself out of there and take your DC with you.