My DH has eoweekend and he visits them in the week he doesn't have the weekend. He also has them 50/50 in the holidays. There have been three occasions in the 7+ years I have known him where I have asked if he could ask to rearrange as I felt he was needed for hospital appointments for either myself or our shared DC. He has refused. Am I being unreasonable to ask this? I worry about what would happen in an emergancy on a contact day. For context DH has picked up extra days when ex wife needed it for similar and less.
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TreesandFish · 24/05/2023 07:41
If you have children together and you've known him for over 7 years, surely his own kids must be teenagers by now. He will gain some flexibility as they get older
candlesflamesandbrooms · 24/05/2023 07:42
Op have you raised this with him and what did he say ?
With my Dd - I have no problem being flexible with my ex and sm. He gets all weird about asking and I have repeatedly told him it doesn't matter, shit happens and plans change and as long as it's not every week a bit of flexibility is the least we can do for our Dd.
changewhale · 24/05/2023 07:45
@WimpoleHat Yes that is it. Those 3 times are just the times I have asked him. There have been other times I could have done with him rearranging and thought he might want to but have left it to him to decide, especially since we had shared DC. I feel a bit like I'm a single parent at times which I guess is silly but on those days it's like I am the sole person available for DC.
ToBMarried24 · 24/05/2023 08:12
we rearrange when ever we need to. DSD also rearranges sometimes… I think we have both altered contact twice this year already.
Infact we have DSD this weekend instead of next weekend as it’s her birthday so we are going out for the day and getting food.
We have plans next weekend so it worked out perfectly.
changewhale · 24/05/2023 10:25
I guess it's just hit me a bit. Is he never going to come to a parents evening if it's a contact day?
changewhale · 24/05/2023 10:25
I guess it's just hit me a bit. Is he never going to come to a parents evening if it's a contact day?
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changewhale · 24/05/2023 10:25
I guess it's just hit me a bit. Is he never going to come to a parents evening if it's a contact day?
coffeecupsandwaxmelts · 24/05/2023 10:33
I don't think both parents need to attend parents evening tbh.
changewhale · 24/05/2023 10:25
I guess it's just hit me a bit. Is he never going to come to a parents evening if it's a contact day?
coffeecupsandwaxmelts · 24/05/2023 10:33
I don't think both parents need to attend parents evening tbh.
changewhale · 24/05/2023 10:25
I guess it's just hit me a bit. Is he never going to come to a parents evening if it's a contact day?
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