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Sandylanes69 · 18/05/2023 22:15

Not sure what you're expecting people to say in response?

Aquamarine1029 · 18/05/2023 22:16

There's more to the story, I'm sure.

handydandynotebook · 19/05/2023 06:28

Fair enough. Are you just here to vent?

SemperIdem · 19/05/2023 09:09

That seems fair enough, based on what you have said.

WatermelonFelon · 19/05/2023 12:31

Well he doesn't sound very likeable so I'm not surprised 🤷‍♀️

DebussytoaDiscoBeat · 19/05/2023 12:32

And?

Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious · 19/05/2023 12:32

but I wish he didn't exist as part of DHs life.

I know it's an unpopular view on mumsnet, but I'd happily never see or hear about him again.

Maybe he feels the same about you?

DustyLee123 · 19/05/2023 12:33

So don’t see him again, you can go out if he’s coming around.

DebussytoaDiscoBeat · 19/05/2023 12:48

I wonder if this is a goady post designed to lure people into joining in with “yeah I don’t like my DSC either…”

I think what’s unpopular is when people post that they dislike their DSC when it’s abundantly clear to someone outside the situation that it’s a DP problem. Which might be the case here - does DH enable the laziness or give him money when he asks?

Having said that there does come a point where children become adults and have to bear some responsibility for their own actions. I think many would struggle to warm to any lazy drug taking adult.

ItsNotWhatItsNot · 19/05/2023 12:50

Ok.

AnneLovesGilbert · 19/05/2023 14:06

Do you have to see him again? Unless he lives with you - and I wouldn’t want a drug abuser under my roof - then just leave him to DH and ask not to be told about him.

If you have shared finances you get a say in no longer supporting someone who spends money on drugs. If you don’t then, again, leave it to his dad.

It’s only unpopular to dislike a step child who behaves like this on MN. If it was anyone else, including your own child, everyone would say you were right.

ItsNotWhatItsNot · 19/05/2023 15:12

She wasn’t asking for advice, just making an announcement. 🤷‍♀️

BoomShakALakaa · 19/05/2023 16:04

Does your DH know about how you feel about him?

How long have you been in his life? How old is he?

Was he on drugs before you got with his Dad?

Maybe the reason he's unlikable and on drugs is because of the circumstances of his life - family breakup, (was it acrimonious), maybe he feels rejected, a stepmother who wishes he doesn't exist, and who knows what else.

Just a thought?

Hellohello48 · 19/05/2023 20:00

I dont see why it's controversial. Being a step-parent is hard.

MrsTerryPratchett · 19/05/2023 20:07

How old? Because a 24 yo stepson is different to a 14 yo stepson.

TomatoSandwiches · 19/05/2023 20:10

Have you only ever known him as this or did you watch it all unfold?

SemperIdem · 19/05/2023 20:24

BoomShakALakaa · 19/05/2023 16:04

Does your DH know about how you feel about him?

How long have you been in his life? How old is he?

Was he on drugs before you got with his Dad?

Maybe the reason he's unlikable and on drugs is because of the circumstances of his life - family breakup, (was it acrimonious), maybe he feels rejected, a stepmother who wishes he doesn't exist, and who knows what else.

Just a thought?

Perhaps she wishes he doesn’t exist because he is a drug user, who brings misery to the door every time he darkens it? Which would be fair enough.

Rather then wishing he didn’t exist merely because he is her husbands child from his previous relationship, which is a different thing altogether.

Toiletfriend · 19/05/2023 21:10

How old is he? "Drug user" - a teen who smokes weed is very different to a 25 year old heroin addict.

JenniferBooth · 21/05/2023 20:17

MN on fat people...............they cost the NHS too much money
MN on druggies.................well its not their fault.

candlesflamesandbrooms · 22/05/2023 11:53

BoomShakALakaa · 19/05/2023 16:04

Does your DH know about how you feel about him?

How long have you been in his life? How old is he?

Was he on drugs before you got with his Dad?

Maybe the reason he's unlikable and on drugs is because of the circumstances of his life - family breakup, (was it acrimonious), maybe he feels rejected, a stepmother who wishes he doesn't exist, and who knows what else.

Just a thought?

This is really the most ridiculous statement I have ever seen on this board.

A addict is done no favours by people excusing or blaming others for their addiction.

Although it's a first to suggest that a step child addiction has solely come about because of the presence of a step mother.

If the break up of the child's parents has contributed to DSC addiction then it's up to the people who broke up aka mum and dad to take that blame on. But I'm guessing it's probably just easier to blame the step mum right 🙄

Sure ffs

IncomingTraffic · 22/05/2023 14:11

BoomShakALakaa · 19/05/2023 16:04

Does your DH know about how you feel about him?

How long have you been in his life? How old is he?

Was he on drugs before you got with his Dad?

Maybe the reason he's unlikable and on drugs is because of the circumstances of his life - family breakup, (was it acrimonious), maybe he feels rejected, a stepmother who wishes he doesn't exist, and who knows what else.

Just a thought?

This is an incredible example of twisting things to blame the SM.