Dp has an 11 yr old dd from a previous relationship. Up until now the arrangement was she was with her mum during the week and with dp at weekends. This came about as a result of a courtcase when sd was a baby. Up until recently we lived 25 miles away so sd had to be back at her mum's on a sunday, ready for school on monday. Often her mum wasn't in but her 16 yr old brother was. Now we have moved back to the area and sd has been staying round a bit more. This weekend she went to MIL's and MIL was supposed to drop sd off at her mum's but turned up with her round ours as the ex wasn't in and nor was the brother. Sd has now admitted to her dad that her mum is never in, she is always down the pub, every night and does not get back until late, often she is left in the house on her own as her brother goes out. She has always protected her mum up until now. Dp quite ubderstandibly is saying sd should stay with us. I am quite worried as dp is not working, having left his job due to moving. We have an 18 mth old ds and I am pg. We are waiting to see if we will receive any benefits and whether we will get full housing benefit. There is a chance they may not recognise sd (even though he has joint custody) as we don't get the child benefit. We need a 3 bed house due to the children's ages. I'm just annoyed that her mum can be so irresponisible, she doesn't even know where her kids are most of the time, justs spends all day every day in the pub with a different boyfriend every week. The stress of it all is really getting to me as I am pg and I'm worried how we will make ends meet.