Feel sad about DSC and easter

[Winterblu3s]

Been in DSCs life since they where 2, they are now 9. Dad and I have been living together 6 years and have a child together. Myself and DH are not very sociable people, our idea of a day out is something fun with the kids. DSCs mum is a social butterfly and loves socialising. For the last 6 years we have had DSC every bank holiday weekend, including Easter as mum likes Bank Holidays to go out and let her hair down. We have built traditions, go to the coast for a couple of nights, Easter egg hunt with clues, roast dinner and see in laws, just a bit of family time. However, this year mum has a new partner and so DSC is staying with mum at New partners house for Easter. I'm gutted. I know mum has every right to see her child for Easter and it's nice that they all all spending Easter together but I just feel so sad.

Don't know if this will be useful to anyone posting but my own parents split up and my mum eventually remarried.

I never cared at all about having some gifts on different days, never would have occurred to me. Might have thought it was weird to have my dad's presents on Xmas day when he wasn't there rather than being given them by him at a later date though... In my life as a stepmum but also as a child from a broken family and eventually a stepdaughter myself, always felt like spreading out celebrations was never a bad thing. That doesn't mean repeating celebrations... Just enjoying the festive season in different ways on different days!

Your SC are so lucky to have you ❤️

My stepkids spend half of xmas with us and half at their mums. Last xmas the woke up at our house on xmas morning and opened their presents and went to visit their grandparents on our side. At 2pm they went to their mums got presents there and had their xmas dinner with her. It alternates each year so this year she'll have them xmas morning and we'll have them for dinner. This works because we only live 10 mins away from her but I guess not that practical for parents who live further away.

Your feelings are totally valid and it's understandable you miss her but focus on what you do have with your DD, you can create magical memories with her when SD isn't there as well as when she is.

Sending love, it's really hard when you miss a stepchild xx