Give me strength

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Need a rant!

A bit of background- SD is 18; we get on well, been in her life since she was 4 (wasn't the OW, the mum initiated divorce). Always been respectful of her mum as the parent; careful not to overstep boundaries; etc. We have no direct contact as have never needed it - all done through my DH who is an amazing dad. The mum on the other hand hasn't bothered to do more than 'friend parenting' for the last 5 years leaving my DH to do it all with school / clubs etc. Lots of fall outs between SD / her mum. Lots of the mum spouting borderline evil nonsense about my DH. She is a real piece of work.

Just heard that of a mother slagging me off on the phone (SD has it on speaker while wandering around house). Just name calling about my appearance. And - after years of being total grey rock, letting it all pass me by - it has enraged me. I would never say anything to SD as I wouldn't want her to feel bad; she did shush her mum immediately. But I honestly wish all the bad luck in the world on that woman. Just such a nasty human being.

It's cruel isn't it? Trust in karma. Keep your integrity.

@roseheartfly you are right. Karma will win out in the end. Am telling myself that she really must have nothing going on if she's thinking about me.

I don't why it's upset me today, normally wouldn't give that sort of comment a second thought (and as we've barely ever spoken she's not really on my radar).

Oh my goodness how awful!!! I'd be so tempted to have said something back but kudos to you for not.

Karma isn’t a thing.

Just be happy you’re not her, letting someone she doesn’t even know occupy her thoughts enough to bother being nasty about your appearance.

She’s clearly very angry and unhappy and not got a lot going on in her life. That’s sad for her and reflection on anyone else.

DSD stopped her and that’s what matters.

Rise above it. Like you said, if she's slagging off someone she doesn't know then she clearly doesn't have much else going on on her life. It reeks of jealousy. Probably because you have such a good relationship with DSD and she currently doesn't. I wouldn't take it personally. If someone has to lower themselves to insulting someone's appearance, the obviously have nothing of value to say.

@AnneLovesGilbert absolutely- my relationship with SD is the one that matters, and she's great 😊

Thank you all for replying; have come out the other side of feeling a bit meh and won't give it another thought today.

I think it’s ok to decide that you detest the woman. But, like all comments made by people for whom you have no respect at all, you need to just let anything she days wash over you.

Who cares what someone like that thinks? Her opinion is entirely worthless from your perspective.

@SquidwardBound you're right - it's meaningless; and normally I wouldn't worry about it. Shall continue on that way.