Finding my DSS some friends

[IsabelK]

A slightly more light hearted question to my other one.

I want to try and find my DSS some friends, he's 7.
He's a great little boy, bright and bubbly but because we don't live in the same town as his mum, he's not close to his friends and we don't have contact details for their parents etc.
I want to try and find a way so he can make friends near us, I feel bad as he's with us by himself at the moment and when he's with us for longer over the holidays I want him to have children his own age to play with.

Does anyone know how I'd go about doing this? Scouts etc wouldn't work as we don't have him mid-week unfortunately.

Thanks!
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You say you don't have him mid week but there's no reason this can't change is there? Why not find an activity he'd enjoy and suggest it?

Or I guess you could approach neighbours with children but I think that could come accross as a bit odd there's no guarantee that your dss will get on with neighbours chilfren.

We'd love to have him mid-week, and it was discussed for a while when he wanted to go to Scouts/Beavers. He then changed his mind and decided he didn't want to go, then something similar with rugby. It's unclear whether it's him changing his mind or another influence, but it doesn't seem like there's much chance of having him mid-week for the foreseeable.

How much do you have him? DSS has never had any friends at ours and it's never been an issue really, he just does things with us.

We have him every other weekend, a week at Easter, 2 weeks in the summer and a week at Christmas. Plus long weekends at half term etc.
Don't get me wrong we do things with him, it's just when it gets nice out, it would be nice for him to be able to go and play in the garden or the park with friends. He talks about all the fun he's had with his friends at his mums, and I don't want his feeling like he's missing out.

I think you need to find an activity; even one he can do with you or DH. Local climbing wall, or paddleboarding as the weather picks up. You tend to meet families who are keen on the same thing and can take it from there.

I get what you mean. My DSS is similar, he comes EOW and also talks about seeing friends a lot as his mum's, but it's never really felt like an issue as he gets to do that plenty and just spends our weekends differently, it isn't something it feels like he needs. It's difficult because even weekend clubs are generally every week.

When we take him to the park or to soft play he generally finds other kids to join in with, and he also has cousins on our side that he sees with us sometimes. Do you have any other kids in his dad's family?

Could your partner sign him up for an activity club for a week or something in the holidays? Leisure centres do them sometimes? There's no guarantee obviously but it will get him mixing with kids of a similar age in the local area.

It's great that you're thinking of him.

I agree with acitivites.

Could you have schoolfriends for playdates, sleepovers or days out sometimes?