When do step kids stop visiting?

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Wasn’t really sure how to word that title tbh. I absolutely adore DSS but it’s got to the point where he’s a teenager and DH drives 50 miles to get him EOW and then DSS sits in his room all weekend. He’s the same at home apparently. The visits just seem a bit pointless and perfunctory tbh. My DH is considering discussing it with DSS and letting him take the lead on when he’d like to come but is worried that he won’t want to (we live somewhere really boring!!) I don’t want DH to think I’m saying I don’t want DSS to come up (because I do) but I don’t want the visits to become more about our wants than his.

Anyone else had this? What did you do?

Just curious do they fall out a lot ? It's nice that he comes back and has caring family to support him if he's upset !

@Tia68 you've posted on an old thread from January. It's quite likely that people will read the original post and reply to that, and not see yours. You need to start your own thread, if you scroll up you should see a button that says 'Start new thread'.

SC are 18 and 20. They visit a lot less now but only since this summer. Their mum unbelievably wants them to stick to a schedule of EOW, one night a week, all bank holidays and 50% of the holidays.

In our case we never stopped going to my dads. My eldest brother moved in at 16, my second brother moved in two years later and then me a year after.

What's unbeliavable about that. She maybe wants a bit of space to herself sometimes from her adult children.

in which case, maybe she needs to encourage them to move out?

it is weirdly infantilising to have a contact schedule like that for adults.

My kids have a similar schedule at similar ages - that's their choice.

DH had been teaching him how to wire plugs etc.

This is lovely. DSS will remember this time and DH will treasure it.