About to enter the step parent world

[Motherhood86]

Hi all :) quick back story so this makes sense- me and my ex both full time single parents were together 7 years- did holidays, sleep overs etc with kids but never moved in together due to housing finance issues.
We split up as were not happy living apart. 2 years later both still In love and housing issues have changed meaning we can move into together so have decided to give it a proper go, live together become a 'family'
I have a 14 year old boy and he has a 13 yr boy who has no contact with Mum.
Any advice from any Mum's who have blended full time children no just step kids who come on weekends would be so helpful! Would love to hear any success stories and any advice on what would help this process be hopefully a smooth one! TIA

Make sure you get plenty of 1 to 1 with your own child and make sure they have their own space/privacy

Don't do it 😅 kidding ok nearly kidding

Accept most people are gonna be upset/feelings feelings around the whole step family including strangers and just try to be true to your moral compass.

If your a people pleaser run.

Don't.

Make sure the children have their own space and time with their individual parent. Don’t expect them to do lots of things together just because they are the same sex and age. Accept that with teenagers you may not step into a ‘parent’ role

Don’t post about any challenges you have on here. Or if you do, have a good filter to remove the purely “birth mums can do no wrong” ones. Even with no birth mum around you’ll still get some stick.

put the kids interests first in any decisions.

accept blended families come with compromises. Embrace them

youll be fine :)

OMG you are a saint! The kids may resent it now but when they are fully grown adults who are able to function in the world because SOMEONE took the time and care to teach them how, they will know who to thank. I don't think you should really take on this work yourself but in their world of adults who won't take responsibility for them, I'm so glad for them they have you 💐

Sorry posted on wrong thread!