Stepmums - have some compassion for yourselves.

[thestepmumspacepodcast]

Hi ladies,

I just wanted to pop a post on here to say that if you have found the Christmas period hard you aren't alone.

Christmas is stressful for lots of people but Stepmums have it so difficult, we either do too much, or too little... we are accused of overstepping the mark, or we are accused of not caring enough.

So if you're feeling a bit low I'm just sending you 💐💐

Thank you. I need that today.

I'm not a stepmum but can imagine how difficult it must feel sometimes, especially at Christmas. Reading threads on this site alone shows that making decisions must be so difficult sometimes.

Sending out a hug to anyone who needs it right now and hoping things get easier in time 💞

Thanks upinastar your post means a lot! Society LOVES to pit women against women and this translates often into biological mums vs stepmums which means neither group get the support they need!

I hope 2023 is a less divisive year in SO many ways including this.

Thanks for lending your support x

chocolateasaltyballs22 you're welcome. Just remember, however you're feeling is normal. It's valid and finding things challenging and not liking situations and behaviours doesn't make you a bad person xx

But why are people on here who aren't a step-mum? I don't look at new baby forums & comment...

Not to sound rude but it really is beginning to annoy me that clearly the majority of posters here are not step mothers. And just because you were a step child also doesn't give you the right either because I too was a child but don't comment on parenting forums.

Sorry rant over but something really needs to be done about it.

Because the posts come up in trending and people don't check which forum it's from.

At least the non-SM you're referring to didn't come on to have a go on this occasion.

Maybe in the minority of cases, but most certainly not the majority.

How we all doing this lovely festive time of year ?

I had a lovely discussion with DSD who's horse has become v poorly and needs surgery. DSD strop was impressive and having to explain to a 14 year old that no her horse couldn't be taken for a quick 3hr hack or he might become lame.

And her saying "so what you will just buy me another one..." was a delightful show stopping conversation to have at the family gathering at Christmas Day.
Anyway thankfully DH chipped in (whilst I was catching flies with my mouth) and explained the only reason she has a horse was because of me and I was hoping it would help her grow her empathy bone.

So DSD then was overly nice to me and I had to explain the horse may not actually recover and she was in tears.

What I'm saying it I felt the full force of several different emotions within about a hour and step parenting is hard. DSD has bought the horse some sugar cubes with her pocket money so I'm taking the win.

😩😩 wine anyone else having wine ?

Love this post!!

A terrible Xmas from DSC side. But we just focused on our joint children and it was amazing!!

Love the podcast ❤️

Thanks podcast. I find Christmas super hard (step mum, no kids of my own, never going to be any) but DSD was happy and her dad was happy that she was happy. So I’ll bank that as a success.

hourbyhour101 - it is so true that you can feel all the feels within about an hour when you're a stepmum, It's actually really confusing!!

overthehill7 I'm glad you like it! it's given me a lot of motivation and as someone who's spent the last 12 yrs being a parent and an employee it's great to have such a rewarding "hobby". It means such a lot to know that others take something from it, thank you x

@thestepmumspacepodcast isn't it.

Step mumming is 100xs harder than parenting your biological children and that shit is hard in its self.

Gotta take the small wins when you can