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xmaslurgy · 2022-12-22T19:28:15+00:00

The DSC have been here for just over a week now. Usually it's every other weekend and every other week in the holidays. They've got so much worse and are just fighting and making a mess and sulking and it's really annoying me. I don't think I could cope if they ever had to move in full time. Any advice for how I can change my mind set so I can at least not get so stressed out with it? I know they are just being teens. I remember being a teen but urgh the mess!

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Lilithslove · 22/12/2022 21:07

Can you go out somewhere on your own and get yourself a nice lunch and coffee in a quiet cafe? Say its last minute Christmas shopping or something. It sounds like you just need a little break.

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xmaslurgy · 22/12/2022 21:39

Lilithslove · 22/12/2022 21:07

Can you go out somewhere on your own and get yourself a nice lunch and coffee in a quiet cafe? Say its last minute Christmas shopping or something. It sounds like you just need a little break.

Thank you yes I'll try that tomorrow if I'm able (poorly at the moment which isn't helping)

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insatiableme · 22/12/2022 21:51

I've been poorly and feeling like that with my own kids when messy and noisy. I wouldn't be to harsh in yourself. Your only human!

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xmaslurgy · 22/12/2022 21:55

insatiableme · 22/12/2022 21:51

I've been poorly and feeling like that with my own kids when messy and noisy. I wouldn't be to harsh in yourself. Your only human!

Thank you for your kind words. Yes i need to give myself a break!

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gogohmm · 22/12/2022 22:04

Teenagers can be pretty full on but the upside is (unless sn's) you can go out!

chocolateasaltyballs22 · 23/12/2022 14:22

I wish I knew. Am sat in my bedroom feeling irritated after listening to SS repeatedly scrape a metal fork against a pan cooking his noodles, and then slurping said noodles down loudly. I just want him gone.

FestiveDove · 23/12/2022 14:55

How are things today OP?

SC are due to arrive here this afternoon and stay til Christmas Day. I’m already anticipating the stress (and drama) they’ll bring. Can’t even escape out of the house away from it all as myself and mini Dove are ill with a virus.

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xmaslurgy · 23/12/2022 16:25

chocolateasaltyballs22 · 23/12/2022 14:22

I wish I knew. Am sat in my bedroom feeling irritated after listening to SS repeatedly scrape a metal fork against a pan cooking his noodles, and then slurping said noodles down loudly. I just want him gone.

I totally understand that. It's the little things!

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xmaslurgy · 23/12/2022 16:25

FestiveDove · 23/12/2022 14:55

How are things today OP?

SC are due to arrive here this afternoon and stay til Christmas Day. I’m already anticipating the stress (and drama) they’ll bring. Can’t even escape out of the house away from it all as myself and mini Dove are ill with a virus.

Ok but fighting over the blimmin netflix so I went out for coffee earlier :)

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MeridianB · 23/12/2022 16:42

And there’s the rub. If they were your own children you could ask/tell them to stop fighting/making noise and clear up their mess. Does your DH not notice these things/not care or does he see it as them making themselves genuinely at home?

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xmaslurgy · 24/12/2022 12:41

MeridianB · 23/12/2022 16:42

And there’s the rub. If they were your own children you could ask/tell them to stop fighting/making noise and clear up their mess. Does your DH not notice these things/not care or does he see it as them making themselves genuinely at home?

I think he thinks it's normal.

I think they are bored and boredom is ok but they need to find an outlet.

Eldest is having a sulk now but at least it's quiet.

Merry Christmas all!

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Malifi50cent · 27/12/2022 22:48

chocolateasaltyballs22 · 23/12/2022 14:22

I wish I knew. Am sat in my bedroom feeling irritated after listening to SS repeatedly scrape a metal fork against a pan cooking his noodles, and then slurping said noodles down loudly. I just want him gone.

This made me laugh! My DSD has recently taken to swishing each mouthful of drink around her mouth and through her teeth several times before swallowing and it's noisy and so bloody irritating! DH just sits there oblivious whilst I silently combust. If it was my own DC I'd play hell but you just have to sit and smile through it and pretend it's all cute and fine 😵‍💫 Glad it's not just me!

CornishGem1975 · 28/12/2022 08:15

I feel your pain. I struggle with this constantly. I can't deal with the sensory overload and there's nowhere to escape to. I can't just go out as I gave my own DC here. My DH is hands on but we disagree on behaviour - what I see as rude or excessive he sees as cheeky or playful.