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Do your stepchildren have bedrooms as your house?

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Dinoswearunderpants · 22/12/2022 10:08

DH and I live together in a four bedroom house. We have DS1 and he has his own room. We have our bedroom then that leaves two rooms for three step kids.

StepDS15 and has the small box room (double sofa bed). He has stayed over perhaps 2-5 nights this year in total. Typical teenager wanting to stay home with his friends.

StepDD9 and StepDD12 share a room. StepDD9 stays over EOWE. She always wants to stay and that's lovely. She has bunkbeds but has a desire to have a double bed.

StepDD12 again typical teenager and stays even less than StepDS.

This post isn't about how often they stay. There's nothing we can do to 'make' them stay more. They see Dad every week, but they never want to stay as it's an hour away from their friends.

I'd like to get a double bed for StepDD9. We could use it in her current room however that would mean if/when StepDD12 stays, they'd need to share a room.

I don't want StepDD12 to feel left out any more than she might do already (didn't take news our our baby well!).

I just feel so frustrated that StepDD9 who always stays, has to be stuck with a bed she doesn't want.

What are your thoughts please? And where do your Step Kids stay if they don't live with you.

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TheDietStartsTomorrowOrMaybeTheDayAfter · 06/01/2023 10:31

Yes, we deliberately bought a house big enough for DSS to have his own bedroom.

thestepmumspacepodcast · 07/01/2023 19:46

Agree with what others say... a double bed is not necessary for a 9yr old. If she likes the space then the triple is a good option.

Were things good with elder SD before the pregnancy news... I'm wondering if there is an opportunity for her Dad to strengthen the relationship with her so she did some more often.... although as you say it could partly be teenagers who, understandably, want to be with their friends a lot!

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