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Familyiness · 06/12/2022 18:10

Found out that my Step sons mother is buying him an electric scooter for Xmas. These are illegal to use and if caught can have the scooter confiscated and/or a fine and points on licence, he is 15.
Is there anything we can do?
We have voiced our concern about it.
If he gets a fine the parents pay it, but given we didn't buy the thing, what can we do incase this happens. Plus she is setting him up to struggle to get a licence when he gets to that point.
My daughter asked for one and we said no because they are not legal anywhere, other than private property with permission

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hourbyhour101 · 06/12/2022 18:11

I don't think you can do anything tbh.

It's foolish and reckless but if she's going to allow it, the bill goes to her alone.

This sucks and I'm sorry

Wibbly1008 · 06/12/2022 18:11

A child has just died colliding with a bus, these things are dangerous. Can your DH print out this article and give it to the ex?
feeling for you OP.

Familyiness · 06/12/2022 18:44

Unfortunately she's one of those that will do anything for an easy quiet life, likely she won't even make him wear a helmet.
My adult son got one, despite us telling him time and time again, came off it in Feb, broke both wrists, screws and pins, this should be enough to put him off, but it's not. My son immediately got rid of his, and he wasn't reckless on it, literally was using it just to get to work and back. He has bought a legal electric bike now.

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alasangne · 06/12/2022 20:01

Shop him to the police. Yeah he'll get a fine and points but better that than dead.

Familyiness · 06/12/2022 20:51

@alasangne tbh i was considering it.
But seems a bit mean, he is likely to get caught anyway.

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Laurdo · 07/12/2022 08:22

My 15yo SSs mother lets him smoke and drink. My DP raised the issue with her when he caught SS smoking at our house and she didn't care. SS now spends most of his time at his mums, he used to be at ours 50%, because he's allowed to smoke and drink whereas it wouldn't be tolerated here.

Not much we can do. It's shit but that's the joys of co-parenting with an idiot. Unfortunately a lot of teenage boys think they're invinsible and rarely listen to reason.

I'd do what others have suggested and speak to the police in advance. Better to be mean than attend a young boys funeral.

Honestly, the total lack of care of some parents astounds me!

MintJulia · 07/12/2022 08:25

Report it to the police and trading standards.

No negotiation.

girlmom21 · 07/12/2022 08:28

Educate him.
At 15 he's old enough to understand risk and danger.

Familyiness · 07/12/2022 10:59

@girlmom21 I have already told him about the dangers and the trouble he could be in, but he doesn't listen.
He has pretty much had his own way most his life with his mother, we are tougher but he don't like it.
His mother also allowed his older brother to tattoo him. Which I believe even with consent is still illegal to tattoo anyone under 18. And he is unlicensed. He could get sepsis, hepatitis etc
I'm very worried he will go down the same path as his brother or his sisters, which i don't want for him.

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