Advice needed

[Susan5098]

Hi, I have been dating a guy now for a year I’ve met his 6 year old son he has a nice kid and we get on great, says he loves me and I love him, but he has been spoiled since the day he was born by both his parents, he has to get special treatment in school due to his tantrums, the other day in school he threw a fit and caused a scene in the classroom, he played with a toy that he was not allowed to play with as his parents said he has to be punished for his behaviour I said his behaviour is because yous have spoiled him over the years and are too soft with him, so he lashed out and took the toy he was told not to play with the toy till after his punishment he took the toy and said I’ve got it and shut the living room door I said no not just now so he hit me on the arm I said no don’t do that next minute he screams and shouts and tried to whack me my boyfriend took him into the next room to calm him down and told me to stay away, he also sits in the front of the car while I have to sit in the back, I really love my boyfriend but am thinking of ending it as I cat cope and to top it all off me and his ex do not get on

His behaviour sounds challenging but quite normal given what you have put.

Given what your partner has been allowing his son to dictate where people see in the car really you have a DP problem. Less so a DsS issue iMO

It's dangerous for his kid to sit in the front for a start. I'd walk away. I cant be dealing with that shit.

It’s fine to end any relationship because it’s not working for you. Fwiw a year is pretty soon to be telling a child you love them, especially as you presumably didn’t meet him a year ago. But it’s done now, and if you’re not happy it’s sensible to walk.

Yeah the car situation is a nightmare when I bring it up to him he says am jealous It’s got nothing to. Do with being jealous it’s the fact that am a grown ass woman who is put in the back while a 6 year old sits in the front he rules his parents,

Oh my god.

Run for the hills.

Honestly OP get out while you can, your situation is repeated over and over on this board and it almost never gets any better and frequently gets much worse. He is showing you that you will always be on the outside in this family and that he is incapable of facilitating a healthy dynamic where everyone's needs are considered.

It's basically lazy parenting and misplaced guilt because he isn't with his DS 'full time' but it requires real maturity, sensitivity and emotional intelligence to fix that and (ime at least) a lot of men just don't have those qualities. You're a year in and not massively committed (am assuming you don't yet live together) so my advice would be to walk away now while it's relatively easy to do so and find yourself someone without dad-guilt weighing him down, sorry.

Run op.

No - not a chance. And it doesn't sound like your partner is willing to make any changes to it so nothing will improve. Think it's a choice between put up and shut up or walk away and I'd be walking fairly swiftly.

Run.

Honestly, I've got a niece like this and whilst I love her to bits, 30 minute stints in enough for me.

You're signing up to a lifetime. Go go go!