I have been together with my DP for 6 years. We moved in together a year ago. The family set up is my DC are with us 100% of the time with no DF involvement. My DP has shared care with his DC with a high conflict ex - I was not the OW and she has moved on.
It's been challenging at times if I'm honest more challenging than I'd like.
My DC are early teens and so are DPs.
Recently there has been friction at times - my DC being teens and my DP and I want to approach things differently on occasions. It stresses the hell out of me.
As for my SDC, I'll call them that despite us being unmarried - they used to engage with my DC and I, now they don't. My DP attempts to address this but our attempts are futile.
It's at the point they cannot look me in the eye or initiate any conversation with my DC or I. I feel like a stranger in my own home when they are there and it can't feel good for them. After careful discussion by my DP they have confirmed that their DM tells them not to engage with us when they are at our home.
It's a really hard position for them to be in.
So, I have my old house that I can go back to. It's a beautiful house. My DC would not be disadvantaged in any way with school and friends etc.
I think its best to provide all DC with a home that provides the least friction as possible and the SDC a safe space to be themselves.
I love my DP completely but I think without this change it will take us further into a blended family nightmare which will create far too much resentment.
DP is apprehensive but supportive.
Has anyone this and how has it gone for you?