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Babyghirl · 05/11/2022 00:44

Dss staying tonight did not come to about half ten on his own, hungry dp brought him to mcds came back with a friend I have told them I dont want in the house i have now walked out and am sleeping in my car parked up.

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MolliciousIntent · 05/11/2022 00:46

Sounds like you're making a big fuss about nothing. Go home and get into bed.

NameChange329435 · 05/11/2022 00:52

Why would your dss not be welcome in his own house? And why would you sleep in your car? You're being ridiculous.

Babyghirl · 05/11/2022 00:55

@MolliciousIntent
His mates attitude is unreal, out of his 20 friends it's one I don't like and don't wsnt him in the house.

@NameChange329435
Where in that post did I say dss was not welcome, I said his friend wss not welcome and as we bought the house together 4 years ago I have a right to say I don't wsnt people in it.

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quietnightmare · 05/11/2022 00:55

Damn really right it's not a hotel. DSS should be welcome at anytime but his friend is not. You are 8 months pregnant it is inconsiderate

NameChange329435 · 05/11/2022 00:59

To me that's how it reads, sorry if I've got it wrong. Of course you have a say who is in your house, tell the friend to leave.

Babyghirl · 05/11/2022 00:59

@quietnightmare
Thank you, its the way it was done dss came they went for food and came back with a 15 year old whos mouth needs washed out, dss is welcome anytime with any other friend this one I just feel so uncomfortable being around.

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quietnightmare · 05/11/2022 01:01

Go back in and tell your partner that it is time for the friend to go and go and rest in bed. Rude 15 year olds who are no relation to you have no business being in your home if you aren't happy about it

Babyghirl · 05/11/2022 01:09

@NameChange329435
Sorry no dss welcome anytime, just this one friend has a way with his mouth, and very rude the way he talks, sp thinking cause it was late I would just get over it I'm now parked up in my car trying to get comfy for some sleep. Nt easy 8 months pregnant. And after 4 miscarriages stress is all I need.

@quietnightmare
He did not even bat an eye lid when I wss leaving not even where u going to stay, so I doubt he will bring him home.

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quietnightmare · 05/11/2022 01:12

Sorry to hear that. He shouldn't treat you that way. Looks like a serious talk needs to happen tomorrow and explain your boundaries firmly(again) that's all you can do really

Rtmhwales · 05/11/2022 01:31

Why couldn't you just go to your room and shut the door if you didn't want to be around him..?
Sleeping in the car uncomfortable and cold at 8 months pregnant isn't really punishing anyone but yourself.

Interviewnamechange · 05/11/2022 01:37

You have a right to be annoyed about friend staying but it is late and cold (if in England) it is not ok to be sleeping in a car. Tell your husband he leaves first thing in the morning and get some sleep.

It’s a tad dramatic to stay in the car.

stuntbubbles · 05/11/2022 02:12

Why are you sleeping in the car? Is the friend actually in your bedroom or are you just prone to dramatics?

Babyghirl · 05/11/2022 03:14

@stuntbubbles
No I'm not I feel so uncomfortable even being anywhere near him, I had to get out of the house, or he'll would of broke out.

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supersonicginandtonic · 05/11/2022 03:23

You need to get a grip on life to be honest. Go to bed if you don't like his friend. Pregnancy diesnt give you the right to dictate who your step son is friends with 🙄

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IhateJan22 · 05/11/2022 03:46

This is ridiculous, you have chosen to go and sleep in the car, you was not made to do that. Surely you go to your room, shut the door and deal with the rest tomorrow.

Fireballxl5 · 05/11/2022 04:13

Well you’re cutting off your nose to spite your face.
Go home to bed.

MeridianB · 05/11/2022 08:21

supersonicginandtonic · 05/11/2022 03:23

You need to get a grip on life to be honest. Go to bed if you don't like his friend. Pregnancy diesnt give you the right to dictate who your step son is friends with 🙄

Being a homeowner entitles the OP to set boundaries about visitors. Clearly there’s a big backstory but she doesn’t have to allow rude unrelated 15yo boys into her house if she doesn’t want to.

Sweetcakelady · 05/11/2022 13:10

I'm sorry if you go sleep in the car anything happens it's actually down to you.

I get way your upset but your childish.

Guavafish1 · 13/11/2022 10:30

Just tell him to leave

allboysmum3 · 14/11/2022 22:55

OP absolutely has a right to say who stays in her home. Tbh there's no way my step children will be bringing friends round to sleepover ever. It's inconsiderate, unnecessary and just wouldn't happen. Next time put your foot down. we have two young children and my teenage step children absolutely wouldn't bring anyone back here. You don't want people turning up all hours when you've a baby in the house.

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