Suspected DV

[Dolphin1010]

My SD is 16 I've had suspicions for a while but more concerned recently that she is witnessing DV at her mums. BM is HC and not someone myself or OH could approach about this. Would you try and bring it up with SD? How? Or would you stay out of it? Obviously I could be wrong but I'd feel terrible if I was right and wasn't there to support SD. Any thoughts of advice would be much appreciated

BM is HC? what does that mean?

Can't you just ask "how are things at home?" " is your mum okay?" "do you and stepdad get on well?" maybe not all one after the other but just show an interest and gauge her responses. If she asks "why are you asking" maybe you could say you were feeling worried.
Why do you think this anyway?

What is it that's led you to believe there is DV in the home?

Also BM is not a term used unless you are talking about an adopted child. Also what does HC mean?

If you have genuine concerns based on some kind of evidence then I would raise it with the school safeguarding team.

I think either Dad can chat to her about it or you can discuss DV in general.

HC - high conflict

As she is 16 I think you or DH should have an urgent chat with her and ask some direct questions.

The first priority for you is making sure she is physically safe, and also to protect her from the emotional and psychological trauma of witnessing it.

I imagine DH would want her to move in with you guys but she may be reluctant to leave her mum alone in case the abuse escalates. Worth getting some advice from Women’s Aid on practical steps you can take to help her and her mum.