I just need some advice that things get better. My eldest son dad left us when he was 16 months old for someone who claimed to be our friend and often said she loved our life. Fast forward 7 years and after the first year of us still sleeping with each other etc (and she had proof of this but has stayed with him and yes I shouldn’t have but back then I was young and hoped he would come back which he did for a few weeks as he missed us but all she did was constantly message him and jr ruined it) they are still together. I have had endless conversations with them to remind her she isn’t his parent to her response is she is and even when she has kids he will always be her first born: she tries to dictate to me what I do with my son; constant kick off as they never want him longer than 48 hours a weekend so when I make plans for after they drop him home she has the audacity to kick off at me when I said they couldn’t have him longer once because of some event she wanted to plaster all over Facebook: she doesn’t allow/ or his dad doesn’t want to FaceTime him unless she is there which then upsets our son as he will reject the call. I have this set up on his iPad also incase of a emergency he can always get hold of one of us; his dad is now demanding to the school she goes down on the list as a primary parent so she gets all the report cards etc but when I contest this with him he says it’s only fair. How can it be when they have him less than 48 hours a fortnight; never do hospital; doctors; dentist… he goes away twice a year with her and has never taken our son. My son also isn’t ungrateful however because my his dads mum has organised a family holiday camping next year they said they would go with his mum abs take our son. Firstly they have booked it on my second sons birthday so then if I say no I look bad, and secondly he doesn’t like camping it’s not the holidays he likes he likes the abroad holidays; a hotel and home comforts, theme park holidays etc. His dad earns more than me yet refuses to do it. I had to buy a cinema voucher for my ex, the gf and my son for Christmas from our son because he was so upset daddy won’t take him. Please tell me my son will grow up to realise how little he does and actually when he’s screaming and shouting at me it’s me that does everything, Robucks I buy it; other memberships I buy; ipds I buy. Christmas and birthday he only gifts me the list of what he wants. Daddy doesn’t bother. I just hope one day he will see the pain they have put me through. She has books their wedding for a couple years time and refuses to give me the date and tells me I can’t book a holiday all year… like wtf! She buys crap for him for Christmas and birthday and sends me the list as is like ‘it’ll take forever to read what I buy him 🤣’ but it’s like it’s crap; I buy less but mine cost so much more as it’s what he wants! Nintendo switch was last years 😠but the gf Is so quick to post shit on Facebook and look like the wonderful human which all her family tell her she’s perfect and this and that: irs like why can’t people see it’s just a facade…. She doesn’t realise care, they have both said to our kid before he can’t live there as it wouldn’t fit into their routines and lifestyle like wtf! They said they will have holidays with their baby when they have one but he won’t be invited to them all; and then our kid still thinks the sun shines out his ass! I know step parents are never easy I am one myself but I always allow my partner to do parents days or speak to them etc without me having to be there. In the beginning he would cancel staying at mine because of the kids which I never complained about because it’s his kids, he refuses to come on holiday with us as his ex wife won’t allow his kids to come so then he doesn’t go so he doesn’t miss his contact with them:
I just needed a rant; and someone to understand the crap these ex’s put us through! If I took this to court would I have a leg to stand on to get her out of his life? I am
Just so fed up. Last year they did have him a few weekends on a row as on their weekends to not have him there was a family event and the dads mum asked me if our son could go so I sent him.. so on Facebook we get ‘weekend number 7 in a row of having our little munchkin’ like making me look crap! God I get so angry!