Fathers rights ??

[mamazee]

My partner does not live with his 12 year old son. His ex is re-married and her husband pays for DS private education. The private school was chosen with no consultation with my partner and once decided he was asked to pay towards it, he refused as

1. he does not agree with the choice of school.
2. we cannot afford it.

He does pay maintenance and pay towards general stuff ie music, sport equipent etc

He would , however, like to know how his son is doing and term dates etc. the school has a password system on their website to access school dates. so my Dh wrote to the school to ask for the password and to have progress reports sent to him and info on parents evenings.

They have written back and said NO..
apparently they are contractually obligated to DS mum and her husband as they pay the fees ???
If he wants to attend open evenings he has to ask HER ??

How does that works ?? its like paying to be a parent ?

I know that state schools have to let BOTH parents go to open evenings and get reports/dates but is it for real that private schools are outside the law ??

Surely he should be able to get AT LEAST the dates ??

he is currently getting a court order as she
gave her new husband parental responsibility and NOT his dad...could that be it ??

HELP..

oh mamazee that is awful, I hope you have been able to tell your sds what will really happen etc. It sounds great that your sds has been able to tell you this stuff it means he is not afraid of the consequences that he trusts his Dad. His Mum does sound a bit unhinged, perhaps she desperately wanted more children and resents having to share her one and only or something.

Please let us know how you get on, I like positive outcomes - only a few more years until your sds can see who wants to more easily and he is of course old enough to have his views taken into consideration already.

The court will do nothing of the sort, what a horrid woman.

PR being granted to your DP just means he ahs equal rights over DS, it doesnt take anything away from her.

her dh defo has pr..she sent our solicitor the form.

we just keeping telling him that his mum is very angry and that we are doing our best to sort it.

i reckon when he older he is gonna be at our house alot more!!!!

sds is an absolute joy though and is aware that she can lose her temper and be controlling...think she may not be able to have more babies so i am a nightmare to her...her sons first sibling and another reason for him to want to see his dad.

she refuses to have ANY contact with me whatsoever !!

Sorry Mamazee, I didn't intend to come across as attacking you/your partner, honestly. I was just as VS explains, trying to see it from the schools pov - wriggly baby here so my typing also dubious!

No offence taken and I hope none given x