Gifts for ex’s ds

[Nhsbandhelp]

So i have a dd with my ex and my ex also has ds (dd’s half brother).
when we were together we used to buy gifts together for bday, christmas etc so the gift was from dad and my name and later from dad + my name + dd (when she was born).
now no longer together I dont think I will see much of ex ds as he lives with mom in different town and dont see a reason really to see him anyway.
theres large age gap between him and dd and im kinda leaving it up to their dad to maintain that sibling contact.
now do i buy gift for ex ds for christmas or not? Whats the etiquette? Do i buy it as from my dd? Or maybe from dd and me together? Dd is a toddler so cant buy or make a gift herself
im newly single mom, money is very tight so…
sorry for typos, im writting with one hand while rocking dd to sleep

So your DD won’t be seeing her dad unless he makes an effort? I’d wait and see if that happens first.

And if he makes an effort and you feel inclined at some stage to buy his DS a small token gift from your DD (or picture by her) then fine. But it all seems some way off that at the moment, unless I’m reading it wrong?

If DD is a toddler, it's obvious that the gift will be from you, not her. So it really depends on your relationship with ex SS and if you FEEL that you want to give him a gift. There's no etiquette, it's really up to you. My DP used to give a gift for his ex SS bday until he became an adult, but he often saw him when he was picking up his daughter, so I guess it felt uncomfortable to ignore his bday and he generally liked him. I don't think he gives him a present now that he's an adult and he doesn't see him much.

I wouldn’t

I think you got it wrong.
Dd is seen by her dad on regular basis. Im talking about seeing his ds?

Buy a small token gift as the gift is from your DD. (Though it's obvious you paid for it.)

Small children don't know how much things cost, and so he will just be excited to get a present from his sister.

It's her dad's responsibility to get gifts from her for his side of her family especially for hia own son.
Part of the joy of being an ex is not having to do the wife work anymore 🙃

I wouldn't expect to need to get anything, no, her Dad should be sorting gifts from DD to his DS. It's up to you if you want to get him something from you, but I wouldn't get anything "from" your DD.

Yes dad should be sorting gifts from DD to DS and vice versa. Don't keep doing his wifework for him!

Oki thanks! Thats what I thought, I agree it should be dads responsibility

I would be buying a present my myself and the toddler. It wouldn't be massive but I'd still want them to know I wasn't disappearing out of their lives. From your exs history they may have to deal with partners coming and going and I think that's hard for an older child.

Don’t bother, the gift from dad is from him and toddler. You don’t need to buy something separate from her