Room set up

[RoseA89]

Hi everyone,

Just wondering - how do you all work out room arrangements? DH and I live in a 3 bedroom house. We have a DS who has his room and we have another room for DSC - boy and girl. They’re young enough just now that they can share the double bed as they’re close in age. However, DH wants to move DSS into DS room. How would you do this? We don’t see them regularly as they live far away. Would you get a chair bed? I feel bad getting a fold down bed or something along the lines. And do you think the fact that DSD would have her own double bed would cause an issue down the line? I don’t want him to end up resent coming here!

Thank you! X

What size are the bedrooms ?
Would bunk beds work for the 2 boys?

I think one kid getting a double while the other two have to share is a recipe for resentment

@GrazingSheep they’re both big enough for a double bed. DS is still in a cot though.

@properdoughnut that’s what I thought too. DS is only 1, we couldn’t get bunk beds yet.

Whats the age gap between the two boys?

Bunks for the dsc

@properdoughnut There’s a 5 year gap

Possibly just about doable for them to share when toddler is about 3 maybe? But I'd make sure they have time apart somewhere in the house especially as they get older. There will be homework etc that needs doing.

Surely you sell the double bed and get a single instead?

You could do bunk beds if they will visit more often, but if not, a trundle bed perhaps?

Yes I'd sell the double too

Could you not get bunk beds for the 2 DSC...even if they're opposite sex it should be okay for a good few years. Wouldn't suggest it on an every day basis but if it's rare for them to visit it shouldn't be an issue. Kind of like what they'd do on holiday?

That means your dc who is there all the time and makes more use of the room can have his own?

This is what I would do but it depends really on how often they stay. If it's mainly for example school holidays then I'd do that. And perhaps as they all get older, DC would share with DSS when they stayed, but have their own room still for all the time. I think a full time child needs a full time room. Though bunks for the 2 wouldn't be too bad.

My DC and DSC are both same sex same age and have bunks, my other DC has their own room. The 2 who share love sharing a room together!

Hello! How old are all the children and how often do the stepchildren stay?

Get a bed with a pull out bed underneath.

I assume OP wants to keep double bed as DSC shared room can be a guest room when they're not there.

Could you not get bunk beds for the 2 DSC...even if they're opposite sex it should be okay for a good few years.

Not really. Some girls develop early and really wouldn't like to be sharing with a boy. They can start periods at 8 or 9. Bunk beds for the boys or a pull-out.

That's true but I think it depends on the frequency.

I wouldn't suggest putting opposite sex SC in same room but the odd night in the same room as your same sex full sibling isn't the end of the world.

Growing up my brother and I had one weekend at my grandparents per month and occasional holiday visits and we shared a room with 2 single beds. When we went abroad on holiday there was no way my parents were paying for us to have separate rooms

How old are the children? If your son is there full time, and step kids only intermittently I don't think he should be made to share. Is one of the rooms big enough that you could get two single beds and room divider for some privacy as your step kids get older?