wonder if you could give me some thoughts on the following. I split up with DS1's dad two years ago and am now married with DS2 (six weeks).
DS1 has his Dads surname, this was agreed at the time as we were planning to get married, although when we split up he said he had no intention of marrying me. He has offered no financial support and was violent towards me in front of DS1.
We are now settled and my DH is a wonderful man, I want to change DS1's name as we all share the same surname except him, but my ex has accused me of being selfish in my reasons (not that he has asked me the reasons) I don't want DS1 to feel in any way different or excluded from family life. dS calls himself our surname, but ex is telling him to tell me not to do it, then gets annoyed when I say he should not use DS like this.
Your thoughts/advice much appreciated .