My SD is coming today and I'm in knots!

[Nelli29]

Hello everyone, My SD is due to come to us tonight, she is 6 and I am in knots. I get so worked up and upset before she even gets here! Does anyone else feel like this? (For some history look at "I'm strugling to cope" thread!)
Thanks . K xxx

Sorry Nelli, no expereince whatsoever but good luck. Sending you a hug - try not to get too upset - have a bath or go for a walk if you can (or have a glass of wine!).

Make plans! Go somewhere tomorrow where you will all have fun. Go to pizza express for lunch, bake something if you like that sort of thing - perhaps while her dad does something else so you can bond without the feelings of jealousy. And just as importantly, book something for yourself as well - a pedicure, a facial, a shopping trip - so you have time out and your stepdaughter can have time one on one with her dad. The time will rush by and I am sure you will feel much happier. And tonight, when she has gone to bed, get a takeaway and have a glass of wine so you get at treat and some time with your dp.

i've become excellent at arranging things to entertain us and the boys and this came about as a way for me to get my mind of the dread i used to experience at the thought of another weekend with my stepsons.
have you talked to him about everything that was dscussed on the previous thread by the way?perhaps you copud take her out just the two of you and your dh could spend some time makign the spare room into a proper little girl's bedroom for his daughter to sleep in when she comes to stay. so the next time she comes to say you can all tell her what a lovely surprise she's got waiting for her?

Agree it is VITAL that she learns to sleep in her own room. It's not good for a little girl to rule the roost like this - she will sense the bad atmosphere it creates. Make her a princess palace of a bedroom as a treat and let her know that is where she will sleep, and that daddy will come in and read her a story and cuddle her at bedtime and in the morning will come in for more cuddles. She might not like the idea at first but it will be good for her and for you.