last night i phoned dh ex to check when 6 week hols start as i need to book ferries and accomadation all fine except have to listen to her moaning that we seem to have had the monopoly of dss holidays this year etcetc [we have just come back from a weeks holiday that was our 'honeymoon'] and so i say to her well actually we are not going away at easter now [she was to have a week and us a week] and she just started screaming at ne that she had organised childcare etc and how dare we keep changing things on and on. so i ask her to stop shouting at me and explain that we will still have dss that not a problem it just not suitable for us to go on holiday [ we were going up to my parents but my mom now gotta have an op] but she just will not listen she just keeps shouting over me that she has arranged stuff and puts the phone down.this is not the first time she has done this when we have tried to do something she does'nt like [she made us change a holiday destination as she said it was a filthy disgusting place [egypt]-never been mindst] so i sent her a text saying i was sick and tired of being shouted at and that unfortunately sometimes things do change beyond our control look at this week for example she has changed th day we pick him from school[thurs instead of tues] and because it our weekend we also haveto take and collect him on friday which is a 70 mile round trip each day[which we DON't mind doing]which means i have had to change my plans this week and so my point i was trying to get across was that it is a two way street, well she rang my dh in a fit and said she was'nt gonna speak to me in future and how dare i throw in her face about this week and that she works etcetc and so my dh tries to explain what i was trying to get acroos and that actually what is the problem cos we have'nt said we not gonna have ds well at this she gets even madder saying that he crap he does'nt pay enough money [we pay 150 of which she saves 100 and buy all his clothes and shoes for when he here cos she point blank refuses to send stuff saying we should provide we pay towards school clothes on an on] and that she had found a wage slip of dh in dss school bag and that her dh pays 400 a month for his daughter so i told him to tell her that we are only paying 19 a month less [according to csa figures] tbh i am so fed up my dh earns an ok wage and i sahm and we have nowhere near as much money as they do her dh a director and she a manager for somebody ,she used to be kind of ok but since she got together with this guy[and he lovely by the way] and got all this money it's like we are the subserviants and she can change all the stuff she wants and we can only do so if we have permission.we would love to move abroad but would'nt even consider it at the moment because of our dss but she told dh to p**s off and move and put her out of this misery and that we were not gonna havedss at all over aester now iam so fed up anybody oh and should i give her the extra £19 i forgot to say that we have a lo too who lives in sales stuff cos we do struggle and i dream to putt 100 away a month for him please someone reply