how well do your step children know your side of the family?

[BadAtMaths2]

DH and I don't have kids of our own. My family live in another country. HIs kids have met them at our wedding, once on holiday when we met up with my brother and his kids for a week, and a couple of times on visits. We've been together 15 years now.

They know who they are and will ask questions sometimes but they are in their 20s so it's no great interest to them.

What's your experience?

Not well at all. They don't come with me on family visits and aren't always here when they visit me so their paths haven't crossed much. I find it odd that some posters on here expect step grandparents to treat step grandchildren like their own grandchildren. My SCs would never expect or want that.

They don't really, apart from one sibling of mine, but I find it uncomfortable when my family send cards and gifts to them or we go round. It just feels awkward as I don't think the DSC are really interested.

They've met a handful of times, much like yours.

When DSD was here eow it was a handful of times but now living with us she is getting to know them quite well.
my stepdad has been in my life for the past 10 years and I have barely met his family

My SC don’t know any of my family at all. They met my mum a couple of times, my sister and her kids once.

My son doesn’t know my (STBX)H’s family either. He’s met H’s parents a couple of times. He’s never met either of H’s siblings.

That said, our toddler has never met his father’s siblings either. They are only interested in the SC and have made literally not effort to see our child.

My family are all very involved with DSD in the sense help with childcare arrangements if needed ie child free weddings, they all speak to her on the phone/FaceTime, visit us for her dance shows/birthdays/occasions and will send little things they've seen for her when out and about where they live. They are also the first people she wants to call about events & good news. I wouldn't have it any other way because she is part of our family so couldn't stand by if my side of the family didn't bother with her yet want to just bother with DP & I.