Partners 5 year old says his mom grabbed him by his neck

[mariah7]

My partner has 2 boys with his ex, 3 and 5. They live with her during the week and come to ours on weekends. In the past my partner has had to speak with her about swearing at the kids, but when he picked the boys up today he noticed a scratch on his 5 year olds neck. When he asked him about it he said mommy grabbed him and dug her nails into his neck while shouting at him. This was Monday and the photo was taken on Friday. When we asked her about it she said he is lying and that she grabbed his arm to send him to his room, not his neck. There has never been any incidents like this in the past, but now I'm concerned and not sure what my duty as a responsible adult would be. Do I just monitor the situation? Do I report it? Thanks!

Why is it on you? Why isn't your partner concerned?

In my experience young children can exaggerate or tell fibs if they feel it's going to get them a little bit of attention. I would tel your partner he needs to keep an eye on the situation but don't outright ask his young children, does mummy hurt you or has mummy done that. That will just put thoughts and ideas in his head!

I've accidentally left a huge scratch than that on DSs neck when I've tried to grab his arm to get his attention. If any one had asked he probably would have said I grabbed his neck because that's how it felt to him.

I'm not saying Mum is innocent here. It could be abuse. But it might not be. I'd monitor it for now.

Please report it! Yes it light not be anything, but imagine it is an you didn't do anything? Better to be cautious.

Believe him ❤️

What does your partner think and want to do?

Your partner is the child's father and needs to take control. You could call children's services yourself if you think the child is at risk and he isn't safeguarding him properly.

FFS
perhaps because she’s an adult who is worried about a child.