Ok. I have grown step/ kids so it's a bit different. They're all ok. Like his ex (their mother ) better than them if I'm honest.
However they have children & my dh is very very involved with his grandkids. They're not small. Age range 8-15
I have a 17 year old. With asn. So is you g for age.
My dh thinks of her as his child & is wonderful with her.
The problem is - he wants us all to be one big wonderful blended family & in theory id like that too, but it's a very very one way street.
His (grown) kids do & say nothing with/to my child, don't treat her as part of the family. Not unkind just uninterested but I'm expected to ooh and ahh over all their kids's everything & I do mean everything. Every dance display, every football game etc is meant to be met with cheers & high fives & gushing fb posts. When I don't I'm accused of uncaring.
This week my child is doing highers, I'm up to my eyes with work & he is furious that I won't drop everything to visit all of them tonight. He has to see them all at least twice a week, and he always goes to them - they never come to us. He says (rightly ) that he loves & cares for my child & I should do the same for his.
But this week it's tough for us & he is stomping around furious. It's not seeing them that's the problem, this week is a problem & if I'm honest the one way street of it all is pissing me off.
Should I force ourselves on the long drive & trail around 3 houses when my child has a higher this week because he's so good to us
Or
Should I put my foot down this once.
My child gets easily overwhelmed & 3 visits on day of higher English exam seems ridiculous to me.
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beachcitygirl · 11/05/2022 14:26
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GarlicGnocchi · 11/05/2022 16:46
It's exam week. That comes first. He's being a dick.
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