Holiday planning

[NotTheOW]

Hi, do you speak to the other household to find out what the plans are for the holidays? Or does your DP just work out the dates and work out what he is doing on those days? We have a "situation" where DP asked DSC what they wanted to do so he's planned it all and Mum has already done it with them (taking them to a certain place to eat out was one of the things). I'm thinking if it's something like that then DP needs to speak to mum and arrange it between them or if he's not going to do that he can't get the hump about it when she's gone ahead and done the activity.

And if I wanted to take them out to the zoo do you think I should be running this past mum first in case she also wants to take them to the zoo or is two zoo trips fine? They'd be different zoos. Just got me thinking their holidays might suck a bit if we don't start planning together the big things and they end up doing things twice.

This is my first holiday where my stbxh have a week each with the children. I was thinking exactly this yesterday- are they going to visit the same places and see the same films next week with him? Maybe we need to communicate more about this (oh look, a flying pig...!)

When they were younger it didn't matter so much as the parents don't live in the same area so all the big touristy kiddy attractions are different. But now they are older and have preferences on their activities I can see they are either going to end up doing things twice (which they might not mind I guess) or the parent with the first week is going to use up all the ideas.

We just plan what we want to do; now and again it’s happened where we’ve said to DSD let’s go to the cinema to see a certain film then next time she’s already seen it with her mum but that’s not an issue for us. Now and again she’s had double trips like to the seaside but she’s happy with that and even if it’s the same place it’s a different experience with us compared to with mum.

I would say there are worse problems to have than two trips to the zoo/to the same restaurant. I am pretty sure my SC would think it was twice the fun!