Ex wife making TikToks!

[Rosebella215]

Not sure what to make of this…
At the weekend I was casually scrolling away on TikTok as I have done for years, when suddenly one of my partner’s ex videos appeared! After I clicked on her account and saw there are 5+ videos basically dad shaming. Whilst she’s not actively talking in them or calling him by his name, they’re all divorce or separation ‘trends’ implying the dad is useless, how she does it all herself & wishes she never met him etc etc.
This seems really strange to me. Purely because these videos have all been made this year & they have been divorced for over 3 years!! I’ve been with my partner for 2 years & they have a DSD 8 who is amazing. We have her 4 nights every other weekend, plus 1 night in the week & he’s always made his payments to his ex on time 100%.
For background, a year into their divorce mediation was called and it was agreed that all communication should be via email & only when it was about their DSD as his ex was harassing him about things not relevant on a daily basis. She’s also been with a new guy says DSD for over a year now, so it doesn’t quite make sense why she’s making these videos now?
Any ideas? Do I tell my partner? Is this normal? I just worry that the boat is going to be rocked by her somehow again soon and we have such a good life & relationship I don’t want anything to ruin it.

Just leave it how can you prove its even about him could be any ex she was talking about

My DSDs mum used to like to create the illusion to people that knew her that she was raising DSD alone with no support from hey dad; it was annoying but in the end DH just had to close himself off to it as the people that matter or know us know the truth and it just made her look odd.
I’d tell my DH in your situation as I wouldn’t want to keep it from him but also calm things down and just agree it’s weird and attention seeking

I'd just ignore it tbh. What can either you or your DP do about it? As long as she's not mentioning him by name, she's within her rights to post what she likes.
She's also entitled to her own opinions and feelings so it's not for anyone else to say if shes right or wrong....

Also a bit strange that you were casually scrolling and it was her post that just happened to appear

Let it go

We have her 4 nights every other weekend, plus 1 night in the week

5 nights a week?

It could be that the sheer drudgery of all the "stuff" she had to do has worn her down (it's exhausting and money isn't everything), it could be that she's bitter. Either way, just forget about it. No good will come out of you saying something.

Ignore her! You can’t stop her being immature.

Do you see a lot of this type of tiktok? Seems strange the algorithm presented you with this one otherwise.

@TraceyLacey

Do you see a lot of this type of tiktok? Seems strange the algorithm presented you with this one otherwise.

I don't think it's particularly strange! Algorithms don't always get it right. I see loads of old shit I'm not interested in!

Anyhow back to the op.
It is weird, but just leave her to it. Don't give her the satisfaction. Dps ex claimed to be a single mum who does it all on her own with no help with anyone, just neglected the fact that dp paid her mortgage for years post him moving out, plus maintenance and extras, she still claimed it when dss lived with us. We just ignored her safe in the knowledge that people who knew us knew it was bollocks and those who didn't, we didn't care enough about to try and tell them.

Well I'd tell your DP but otherwise I'd just ignore her.

@Getyourarseofffthequattro thank you! Trust me if I could avoid seeing the exes face I would She’s blocked on all platforms & if I’d known this was her username on TikTok she would have been blocked also! Besides none of that changes the fact that the videos are there.
Trust me I have no desire to know what she gets up to in her life, we don’t ask DSD stuff like that, never pry at all. We have our life and her hers, but I feel so fiercely protective of my partner & it sits really comfortably with me knowing they’re there. He is an amazing dad & in the first 18 months of being together we had no end of grief. I guess I’m just worried things may ‘start up’ again if she once again feels such a strong aversion to him! Anyways, I will ignore it & just wait and see if anything happens…

I'd imagine she's found tiktok in the past year or worked out how to post to it, that's all. Hope she gets bored of it.

Sounds attention seeking
Just ignore it and pretend you never saw it. I hate poor me on social media in general

So you have the did 5/6 nights a fortnight?

His ex sounds a bit unhinged. Leave her to it.

Dsd

@Casper001 yep well it’s 4 nights every fortnight plus an extra night in the week when my partner is off work (he does shift work) plus she goes to grandparents 1 night every week also! He pays £500 child maintenance & has never missed a payment. He communicates via email if it’s something important to do with his daughter. I’m not entirely sure what more she wants lol…

It's just jumping on a trend to seek attention.

I wouldnt react. It's beyond petty of her.